Clearing Process for Professionals

Responsibility:

Responsibility begins with the willingness to communicate, to tell the story, to relate an incident, from the point of view of cause, from how you caused it.

Responsibility has nothing to do with blame or fault; it's a "what's so" communication—it only means something to a person in denial of their power.

If you're trying to get someone to admit their responsibility for an outcome then you have a misunderstanding about responsible. My responsibility is to play with people who also accept responsibility for their results.

Examples:

Blame statement: He won't answer my questions.
Responsible statement: I don't know how to have him answer my questions.

Blame statement: She won't do her homework.
Responsible statement: I don't know how to have her do her homework.

Blame statement: He always lies to me.
Responsible statement: I don't know how to create a safe space for him to tell me the truth.

Blame statement: My wife cheated on me.
Responsible statement: I don't know how I did it but I'm willing to discover how I, using my leadership-communication skills, drove my wife into the arm's of another.

Imagine how unconscious one must be to not know/sense that their child or spouse is withholding a significant thought from them—because of fear.

Imagine how unconscious (or ignorant) Nuns must have been to not have experienced the fear, anguish, guilt, and shame on the faces of certain Alter Boys? Such behavior is referred to as enabling.