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One topic K-12 teachers don't cover effectively is the correlation between integrity and the experience of health. I.e. A lie, a theft, or an abusive stink-eye and it's effects. What we see nationwide are overweight teachers (stuck in "Do as I say" hypocrisy) thwarting the wisdom of their own former health, nutrition and biology teachers, all proving that what's being presented doesn't get gotten. A school's unhealthy overweight teachers reveal that their principal has not completed a Leadership Training Program; as such, their own integrity issues don't allow them to model/inspire mastery of health.

As of 6/22 research reveals there are 14+ million obese children/adolescents in the USA.

Seldom, if ever, at the beginning of an appointment, does one hear a doctor or a therapist ask,

If your problem is about an perpetration, what thought comes to mind?

Never does one read in a fitness-spa brochure—

Exercise Class Prerequisite: You must agree to participate in our Integrity Clearing Sessions. Exercising or dieting on top of life’s incompletes, the unacknowledged perpetrations (lies, deceits, withholds, and abuses), won't work. Such incompletes serve as barriers to optimizing a health/fitness program.

Most people don’t address the subject of integrity until they are forced to by circumstance—a blaming divorce, the death of a loved one, the loss of income, a serious accident, or a debilitating disease. The majority attempt to master health (weight/fitness) as though there is no connection between health and integrity. This ignorance serves as a barrier to producing and maintaining one's desired results. That is to say, until one cleans up their integrity, the incompletes, the unacknowledged perpetrations, remain as the possible cause of their less-than-satisfying health.

The mind handles our survival:

Left on automatic the mind protects itself, it gets us through an incident but not necessarily with our integrity intact. Its purpose is our survival not our happiness or spiritual well-being. It rationalizes that lying is Ok providing it's a "good" reason (I.e. police sting operations)—often fear is a motivator (see Dear Gabby).

For example:

Mother to teen daughter: "Where are you going?"

The teen, afraid to be honest, replies, "I'm going to the library."

Note: The teen plans to meet a boy at the library (so she can say she was at the library) but, as before, they go some place else to "...watch the submarine races." The unwoke teen is oblivious to the fact her date thinks nothing of conning her into deceiving both sets of parents. Both are ripe for a life of karma-thwarting events. Teens mirror the integrity of their parents.

The consequences, now compounded, are still, to this very day, affecting all outcomes. The mind not only blocked out the incident, it created a reality that arrogantly dismisses the consequences of lies, especially, the "white" ones. The unconscious mother, enabled her daughter's lie; the once woke mother was dragging around her own unacknowledged perpetrations so she couldn't tell her daughter was lying. The Mom, to this very day, is still producing her own less-than-desirable consequences.

Without a doubt you the reader have dozens (if not hundreds) of such perpetrations that have yet to be acknowledged, to yourself or anyone. Most perpetrations have been committed unconsciously. These unacknowledged perpetrations are affecting you daily. Your integrity is such that you will not let you get away with such behavior. You will set up life to get caught so that you can finally commit to telling and living the truth. Read about recidivism

If your intention is to experience health then it would work for you to clean up/restore your integrity. This can be easily done through an integrity clearing process.

Some examples of what "integrity clearing" is all about.

1. Who in your life would say that you have treated them abusively?

2. Who in your life would say that you have used them?

3. From whom are you withholding a thought that would upset them if you verbally shared the thought with them?

4. Who would say that you owe them money past due?

5. Who have you badmouthed and have not told them you did so?

6. Who would say they feel used or scammed by you?

7. Recall a lie, a purposeful error, a sneaky omission on an application or another significant form; in other words, you knew the truth would cause you denial/upset.

"verbally" One is always communicating their withholds non-verbally. If, between couples, there is no experience of love each day then both are withholding an equal (yes equal) number of significant thoughts from each other. 44+ years of facilitating 3-hr coaching sessions and I've yet to find an exception to this phenomenon.

A clearing can be thought of as a completely honest confession to a Priest. The difference being, the vast majority of Catholics are not completely honest during confession; they withhold (or conveniently "forget") one or more "significant" thoughts and so they don't reap the benefits of the agreements of their faith. I.e. "Things work well when you tell the truth." The deceit produces undesirable consequences, for life, including, as you've noticed, decreased church attendance and membership worldwide. A Priest who is withholding one or more significant thoughts from someone of significance is not a safe space for certain truths to be told (confessed). Imagine how unconscious (or ignorant) Nuns must be to not have experienced the fear, anguish, guilt, and shame on the faces of certain Alter Boys? Such behavior is referred to as enabling. A conscious person could see (within minutes of the first "event") that the boy's face had transformed from wholesome innocence. That's not to say that Nuns haven't been communicating about the sex abuse by Priests, it's that their non-verbal emanations have produced more of the same. This same enabling takes place with mothers who claim to not have known their child was being molested.

Have a friend ask you each of these 6 questions 10 times in a row. If the asker’s intention is to serve you they will support you in extracting (recalling) the #1 incident, the first ever, the one that’s been wreaking all the havoc.

One of the great things about cleaning up life’s messes, also referred to as restoring or putting in one’s integrity, is that once a perpetration has been verbalized to another the karma begins to lift. After a clearing most people feel and look younger, such is the weight of unacknowledged perpetrations. Completing these kinds of incompletes creates space for one to manifest their stated intentions, including their health and fitness goals.

Until you restore your integrity you can’t be certain if failed results, thwarted intentions (say a weight problem), are a result of your integrity (your karma if you will) or simply your communication model (how you communicate). It could be said that the "God" in you punishes you until you address your addiction to blaming and to lying.

Remember: One or more of your former acquaintances are still recovering from one of your abusive hurtful "stink-eyes" or your shunning of them. Your name has come up during other's therapy sessions.

If you clean up (acknowledge) life’s perpetrations and things still don’t work, then you have eliminated the possibility that it’s an integrity issue. Then you can begin designing a new communication model, one that supports you in manifesting your stated intentions.

Note 1: A clearing process is a two-person activity (a coach and you, or you and a friend) —your mind won’t allow you to remember the #1 perpetration (the biggie) it has cleverly buried. Journaling works but it's only a start. Those who have journaled most likely promised themselves they'd to do it each evening but for some "unconscious" reason forgot to the night the mind should have recorded a biggie; the omission (the broken agreement with self) added yet another unacknowledged perpetration to the list.

Note 2: Ultimate integrity doesn't mean you have to tell the truth all the time, it's merely that you can be trusted to later acknowledge a lie, an abuse, or a make-wrong through to mutual satisfaction with each of your victims. It's best to clear with a communication-skills coach before attempting this, else, the mind that created the mess will create even more.

Note 3: All miscommunications, all breakdowns in communication, all broken agreements (thwarted intentions), can be traced to an earlier similar incomplete, or an unacknowledged perpetration. There are virtually no exceptions to this statement.

Note 4: Another supportive site is Reunion Conversations —it supports the "experience of communication" during family, class, or military reunions.

Read about The (free) Clearing Process.

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