Upset about insensitive divorce
comments / Am I intending uncomfortable comments
about my divorce?
DEAR ABBY: My divorce became final two months ago
and several people have congratulated me. Abby, the
last thing I ever wanted was to be another divorce
statistic, but my ex-husband committed a heinous
crime for which he will pay for the rest of his
life. While I know I'm better off without him, what
I would have preferred was for the circumstances not
to have happened in the first place!
I am trying to get my life back on track. but it
isn't easy. And it doesn't help when some
insensitive person offers "congratulations." They
don't seem to understand that the subject is
painful. I have said, "Please don't say that," but
what else can I say? —UNHAPPILY DIVORCED ON THE EAST
COAST
Abby's Reply:
DEAR DIVORCED: I'm passing your message along.
However, when someone makes an inappropriate
comment, instead of saying, Please don't say that,
try this: "Please don't bring that subject up again.
All it does is make me sad." —ABBY