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About Teacher's Tutorial: Responsibility
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Prerequisite for free 3-hr coaching:
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Definition of the Word Responsibility
v 9.6
Every
teacher that has ever existed has done his/her best to
teach the subject of responsibility. Something about
how the subject has been communicated, verbally,
non-verbally, physically and psychically, continues to produce blame addicts—those
that blame and support (enable) blaming.
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A
customer successfully sued McDonalds for a hot
coffee burn.
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A smoker successfully sued a cigarette company for lung damage.
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Divorce lawyers thrive on the blame (adversarial)
communication model, the model taught to education
and health-care majors and parents alike.
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All divorced couples (yes all)
brought their addictions to withholding and
blaming into the relationship; both consciously
withheld a significant thought from the other on
or before their first date (zero exceptions).
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Judges award child custody to a parent addicted to
thwarting and blaming, the one that co-masterminded the friction
leading to the divorce.
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Teachers resort to pathetic begging and strikes
for funding, blaming others for their inability to
effect satisfactory wages, parent participation or student-learning
through clear communication.
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Throughout history nations have blamed each other
for their wars.
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Ethnic groups such as Jews, Hawaiians, or
American Indians are all stuck
relating history as blaming victims. I've yet to
hear one of the above decendants say, "I/we,
using our extremely well refined adversarial
leadership-relationship communication-skills, set
up _____ to do it to us—an inevitable karmic
consequence of our own behaviors throughout
history."
The above
reveals that there is a difference (measured by
results) between saying the right words regarding
responsibility and communicating responsibly.
The
premise: When responsibility is
"taught/discussed" by an
adult, or an
education major,
stuck in ignorance and
blaming Me2 hypocrisy, the communication
doesn't get gotten.
Some examples:
If a teacher can't inspire
his/her own child or spouse to consistently honor the
housework-chore agreements then anything the teacher
may tell a student about integrity, creating/keeping/supporting
agreements, or responsibility, are just good ideas.
A school staff member who is unhealthfully
overweight,
especially a health/nutrician or physical education class
teacher, is revealing that he/she is
not in daily communication with a
leader, and, that
what's
being taught about health doesn't work; they have
become stuck thwarting their own teachers and
parents.
A "responsible leader" inspires health.
If a teacher is withholding
a significant thought from (is deceiving) his/her parents/spouse, then
he/she is hypocritically, non-verbally, communicating, "Do as I say
not as I do."
When a
truth is delivered via hypocrisy it's heard and stored
but seldom acted upon automatically. For many
the advice (wise truths) from well-meaning but
hypocritical teachers/parents about agreements, lying,
gossiping, or eating correctly, still isn't acted upon
automatically; instead, most are
driven to not
do what they have been "taught," what they intuitively
know works.
I've yet
to read a news article that describes the
classroom-load problem (number of students per
teacher) to be the results of the collective
communication-skills of the administrators, staff and
teachers of a school system—yet most teachers complain
about having too many students.
Never have
I read an article quoting a Superintendent of
Education having said,
I just
don't have the communication-skills to cause the
community and our legislators to support me when I
say it will take x dollars for me to get the job
done as everyone believes they want. Heck, I can't
even get my principals to consistently turn in their
reports on time.
I've never
read a newspaper article quoting an educator as
saying,
Our salary
and funding problems and unsatisfactory SAT scores
mirror my own communication skills.
What I
continually read in the newspapers are reasons,
excuses, and blaming.
Put
another way, if one is not clear about responsibility,
if one operates from blame, then what they impart
non-verbally gets gotten (recreated) by the children
who hang around them. Hollow hypocritical words about
responsibility create unconscious disrespect. Students
unconsciously communicate this accumulated disrespect
later in life when as citizens it comes time to vote
for
teacher pay
raises.
On
the next page you will be asked to read a dictionary
definition of the word responsibility; see if you can
tell why it doesn't sink in.
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