About Teacher's Tutorial: Responsibility pg. 1 of 6

Prerequisite for free 3-hr coaching:

A Definition of the Word Responsibility v 9.6

Every teacher that has ever existed has done his/her best to teach the subject of responsibility. Something about how the subject has been communicated, verbally, non-verbally, physically and psychically, continues to produce blame addicts—those that blame and support (enable) blaming.

  • A customer successfully sued McDonalds for a hot coffee burn.
  • A smoker successfully sued a cigarette company for lung damage.
  • Divorce lawyers thrive on the blame (adversarial) communication model, the model taught to education and health-care majors and parents alike.
  • All divorced couples (yes all) brought their addictions to withholding and blaming into the relationship; both consciously withheld a significant thought from the other on or before their first date (zero exceptions).
  • Judges award child custody to a parent addicted to thwarting and blaming, the one that co-masterminded the friction leading to the divorce.
  • Teachers resort to pathetic begging and strikes for funding, blaming others for their inability to effect satisfactory wages, parent participation or student-learning through clear communication.
  • Throughout history nations have blamed each other for their wars.
  • Ethnic groups such as Jews, Hawaiians, or American Indians are all stuck relating history as blaming victims. I've yet to hear one of the above decendants say, "I/we, using our extremely well refined adversarial leadership-relationship communication-skills, set up _____ to do it to us—an inevitable karmic consequence of our own behaviors throughout history."

The above reveals that there is a difference (measured by results) between saying the right words regarding responsibility and communicating responsibly. 

The premise: When responsibility is "taught/discussed" by an adult, or an education major, stuck in ignorance and blaming Me2 hypocrisy, the communication doesn't get gotten.

Some examples:

If a teacher can't inspire his/her own child or spouse to consistently honor the housework-chore agreements then anything the teacher may tell a student about integrity, creating/keeping/supporting agreements, or responsibility, are just good ideas.

A school staff member who is unhealthfully overweight,
especially a health/nutrician or physical education class teacher, is revealing that he/she is not in daily communication with a leader, and, that what's being taught about health doesn't work; they have become stuck thwarting their own teachers and parents. A "responsible leader" inspires health.

If a teacher is withholding a significant thought from (is deceiving) his/her parents/spouse, then he/she is hypocritically, non-verbally, communicating, "Do as I say not as I do."

When a truth is delivered via hypocrisy it's heard and stored but seldom acted upon automatically.  For many the advice (wise truths) from well-meaning but hypocritical teachers/parents about agreements, lying, gossiping, or eating correctly, still isn't acted upon automatically; instead, most are driven to not do what they have been "taught," what they intuitively know works.

I've yet to read a news article that describes the classroom-load problem (number of students per teacher) to be the results of the collective communication-skills of the administrators, staff and teachers of a school system—yet most teachers complain about having too many students.

Never have I read an article quoting a Superintendent of Education having said,

I just don't have the communication-skills to cause the community and our legislators to support me when I say it will take x dollars for me to get the job done as everyone believes they want. Heck, I can't even get my principals to consistently turn in their reports on time.

I've never read a newspaper article quoting an educator as saying,

Our salary and funding problems and unsatisfactory SAT scores mirror my own communication skills.

What I continually read in the newspapers are reasons, excuses, and blaming.

Put another way, if one is not clear about responsibility, if one operates from blame, then what they impart non-verbally gets gotten (recreated) by the children who hang around them. Hollow hypocritical words about responsibility create unconscious disrespect. Students unconsciously communicate this accumulated disrespect later in life when as citizens it comes time to vote for teacher pay raises.

On the next page you will be asked to read a dictionary definition of the word responsibility; see if you can tell why it doesn't sink in. You are not yet agreeing to do the tutorial.

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