How to use The Clearing Process
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Read this page of instructions, tips, and notes.
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Read Definition of Clearing and Sample Clearing.
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Read the FAQs.
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Begin Clearing.
Note:
If you are returning to clear again you'll notice that
clearings are now done via email.
Clearings are no longer posted on our Message Board.
Definition of a Clearing:
For the purpose of this process we say that a clearing
is a communication process between two that uncovers (recalls) and acknowledges an
incomplete, something left over from an earlier interaction. For example: If,
at age five, your mother asked if you had brushed your teeth and you lied
your first lie, and, have yet to verbally acknowledged that specific lie,
then we don't know to what extent it has been affecting your results since then. Up until then you had
been
in-integrity (whole and complete);
using The Clearing Process you could recall that sleep that night
wasn't guilt-free. Our integrity is such that we won't let our self
both achieve and sustain the experience happiness and joy if we are dragging around life's
unacknowledged perpetrations into each new interaction. We've come to
believe that we got away with life's perpetrations; such arrogance begs to
be humbled.
This clearing process is about searching ones
memories (recalling/acknowledging) life's incompletes and communicating
them, in this case, to a coach skilled at getting another's
communications. The process includes emptying your mind of all
thoughts that appear when asked to recall your first lie, your first
theft, your first deceit, your first temper-tantrum, your first verbal abuse,"
and then emailing such thoughts to the coach,
using your email application. The coach will get your thoughts.
This simple but powerful process disappears the negative karma of unacknowledged perpetrations.
One clearing per day for five days in a row. "Five" because the first
clearings allow hidden ("forgotten") incompletes to appear on days 2, 3,
4, & even more on day 5.
This procedure supports the
conscious-you separating your "self" from your mind.
It adds an auditory dimension so that you hear your
mind's considerations and then together we disappear your thoughts (both the Coach and you delete your clearings) so that
those specific thoughts no longer exist as agents
capable of unconscious actions (I.e. a knee-jerk angry
reaction) you are no longer
attached to them.
Instructions:
After
you have read this page and the
Sample Clearing and the FAQs click on Begin Clearing.
Once you have completed your initial five clearings
you may then use the
Message Board to discuss a specific
concern. The same
username and password works for both the
[free]
Message Drop
and
Message Board .
If,
after you have completed one clearing per day for five
days in a row, you wish to do a free
3-hr consultation the Coach might ask for five more clearings
(also free) so as
to ensure the integrity between yourself and the Coach
(all
breakdowns in communication
between two
reveal that one or more thoughts are being withheld, or there
is an unacknowledged perpetration in the space).
Put another way, if you're not completely honest
during your clearings then you will cause a breakdown
in communication during a tutorial or consultation.
Upon completing your
five clearings return in a few days and, using the
Message Board,
post a brief
acknowledgement of the value we (you and I) co-created. Acknowledgment expands
upon the value, it completes our relationship, and
creates space for even more value.
A nice
acknowledgment is a
donation
(optional).
Tip 1
If you are presently involved in deceit or
abuse
(say, choosing to continue to deceive or to abuse or
to setting it up to be abused) and cannot bring yourself to clean it up
or to
estrange yourself from the relationship
then The Clearing Process will not produce the
desired results.
Abuse hereafter will be premeditated with its
appropriate karma.
Tip 2
The
most value to be gotten from clearing is to recall
and share your very first lie, your very first
theft, your first upset (temper tantrum), the very first time you did something sneaky,
the very first time you cheated, the very first time
you were abusive to another; if you have not been
acknowledged*
for
these firsts then they are stored
(occupying space) in the back of your mind as
incompletes.**
If you can't recall a first incident, from which
patterns (actual neural pathways) were formed
(unconscious decisions were made), then begin by
recalling and sharing your second, third, and all
subsequent incidents. Or, begin with your most
recent (such as yesterday's upset/perpetration) and
work your way back in time.
Read
Reunion Conversations
(reading each page will trigger memories of
incompletes).
*
Most always
when a parent acknowledges you for a
perpetration they do it in such a way as to add to
the guilt, shame, or remorse you may be
experiencing
already; they often punish you which
compounds the bad feeling; it seldom ends up
mutually satisfying. Such an attempt at
acknowledgment produces an incomplete for both.
When a verbal, non-verbal, or physically abusive
punishment is delivered, the mind of the recipient, to be right,
will spend its time (and rightly so) thinking
about the abusive delivery of the punishment
(making the punisher wrong) instead of reflecting on what
you were really up
to, your cause in the incident.
**
An
incomplete is any interaction that
was not
mutually satisfying.
Remember, what you're looking for is unacknowledged
perpetrations and withholds, things you have hidden
from others or even yourself, to include situations
in which you set it up for another to deceive/abuse you.
For example:
Angry outbursts are normal; what completes such an
incident for you and the other is when you later
acknowledge, or you insist upon an acknowledgment. I.e. "I get that my yelling at you today
didn't feel good" or, "I'd like to hear from
you that you know that yelling at me didn't feel
good" (no apology or other words are required or
needed).
To not insist upon an
acknowledgment is to cause all future abuses.
Do
the mini-tutorial (About
Lies and Lying)
it will trigger memories
of unacknowledged perpetrations.
After
emailing Clearing #1 come back
here and re-read everything; it will make more
sense the second time around. Re-reading this will remind you
to look for your
firsts
as
you compose Clearing #2, etc.
If you use the company
computer it will generate undesirable karma, unless 1) You are the boss. 2) You have the
boss's permission to use the company's PC for personal use. Committing a
perpetration to acknowledge prior perpetrations will compound the
undesirable consequences.
Note #1
All
email clearings are read and
gotten (acknowledged) and manually deleted by the
Coach.
By agreement,
nothing is done with them, no comments or advice
about any subject, however, the Coach may advise you
to re-read the instructions so as to optimize your
remaining clearings.
Note #2
The Clearing Process works to the degree that you
are
willing to communicate openly, honestly, and
spontaneously. To choose to lie to or deceive the coach
(including withholding thoughts) adds to the
uncertainty of whether undesirable results are a
consequence of your integrity or simply the effects
of your leadership-communication skills.
Note
#3
If your
perpetrations are legally serious—murder, rape,
felony, false accusations, etc., go
here
first.
Note
#4
Can I start and quit? Yes.
Even though a single clearing will ultimately
produce value, the reason behind the recommended "one
clearing per day for five days
in a row"
is because of the way the mind layers
experiences on top of each other.
For example: As a child you were probably
abusively yelled at and sent to your bedroom after doing something
"bad." You then cried
yourself to sleep. You woke the next morning and neither parent
acknowledged his/her abusive communication, (didn't complete the
incident for you) and, you had almost forgotten the incident. This is
referred to as putting unconsciousness (sleep) on top of an
incomplete. When you attempt to recall such an incident (and any other
incident or upset you handled through distraction or by going to sleep) you will come up with,
"Nothing's there," "Nothing comes up," "I can't think of anything
else." This is because the incomplete is hidden under layers of
unconsciousness (sleep). To recall such an incident you must
acknowledge all the other incompletes that are hiding it especially
the thought,
"That's all I can think of for now."
Once you email
Clearing #1 it creates space for other thoughts that
were suppressed (hidden from your conscious mind) to come to the surface.
If you quit, say after your Clearing #3 email (often because you're
beginning to not feel good about yourself), it's
possibly because the closer you get to the biggie, the one
that's been hidden under the other thoughts, (the
specific incident that's say, the source of your lying throughout life or
how you caused a deceit or infidelity) the
more your mind wants to protect itself from the
realization of just how unethical or irresponsible
or abusive it (your mind) has been, so it talks you into
quitting
using the well established "quitting" neural pathway.
Not to worry, if you're intent on having
life work, you'll return and begin again
(doing 5 days
in a row) or, you'll find another way,
therapy, counseling, journaling, religious rituals
or meditation to complete
the process.
Note
#5
The Clearing Process is an
excellent predictor for a
supportable life partner. If you
invite someone to do
The Clearing Process so that they can then do
The Clearing Process for
Couples with you and they decline
your invitation you'll
know they
are hiding something. Most importantly, you'll see
that they have resistance to being supported, to being contributed to.
Now is not the time to surrender; it's time to
assume control it's a fork in the road which will be
significant and therefore remembered.
For
example:
"Here, read this book," "Wear these colors,"
"Try this food," "Let's take dance classes."
"Let's do some counseling." "Let's not
drink or "smoke" for a month." "Let's give up
TV for a month." Instead, your invitation might trigger an abusive
criticism of the process such as, "That's a bunch of
New-Age Gen-X touchy-feely crap!" [a typical
angry person's reaction]. A
partner in a 5-year loveless marriage has little
hope of being able to have his/her partner do The
Clearing Process; whatever respect there
was at the beginning is hidden under the unresolved
breakdowns in communication.
Most all women in a loveless relationship
will say that if they had invited their "steady" to
do The Clearing Process while dating (before the engagement) he most
likely would have (back when he had more respect for you) eagerly accepted
your invitation, back when sex was dependent upon consistent mutually satisfying communications.
Important: Complete
your five clearings in a row before you invite
another to do
The
Clearing Process. Your partner must first
complete
The Clearing Process before you can do
The Clearing Process for
Couples
together.
Press the Sample button to get a sense of
what a clearing looks like.
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