For example: "I need to let you know I've had a pattern of withholding thoughts and of attracting men whom I could manipulate into cheating on me. I have had trust issues with my mother."

Saying this up front gives a date (a potential partner) a clear choice up front as to what kinds of problems he'd have to be willing to address with you.

Your narrative reveals that you have been blaming your partners for cheating on you, this is irresponsible. It further reveals that you have a misunderstanding about responsibility, of being cause. You've yet to acknowledge that it was you who started the deceit and sneakiness, that you have been using your sophisticated extremely subtle (mostly non verbal) leadership-communication skills to manipulate each to cheat on you.

How do we know this is true? It's the results your leadership-communication skills have been producing. A person who is whole and complete, having acknowledged life's perpetrations, simply doesn't date someone who withholds. All of your partners brought an equal number of withholds into their relationship with you.

In a relationship in which just one person is committed to open, honest, and spontaneous communication, zero thoughts withheld, the other has no choice but to open up and be truthful, or, they end up having an arm's length relationship. A person who operates from impeccable integrity can immediately tell when another is withholding some thought, when they are incomplete. It's an aura thing but it's also in his/her eyes. The withheld thought doesn't have to be that you cheated on a final exam (though that would be a biggie), it could be something as simple as withholding the thought that oral sex with them has been less-than-satisfying.

I usually can't tell what a person is hiding from me, only that they are hiding something, that they aren't being open with me; there's a slight uncomfortable aversion to looking me in the eyes for any length of time. I might add that this is the way most relationships begin, each of us withholding our thoughts of choice until we co-create an agreement to be open and honest with each other.

You've been dragging around your incomplete relationship with your mother into every conversation you've ever had for most of your adult life. You have been out-integrity. Your aura reveals that something is wrong, that you are incomplete. You have not been exuding the confidence, the clarity, the joy and happiness that comes from being whole and complete, from being in-integrity. Your integrity has set life up for you to attract men who are also incomplete so that they can mirror you for you. When you withhold even one thought from another the thought gets in the way of clarity and experiencing what's so. You haven't been clear and sharp enough to tell when someone is deceiving, lying, or withholding thoughts from you. Conversely, men who withhold thoughts from, say, their parents, cannot not see on your face that you are withholding thoughts from them. You couldn't tell that your previous partners were deceiving you because the pattern of deceit you brought into the relationship served as a barrier to the experience of communication.

I don't know if it's possible to create your present relationship to work. You'd both have to acknowledge all your withholds with each other, and, most importantly, you'll both have to do individual counseling and then counseling together. Remember, he has been as deceitful with you as you have with him; you both have an equal number of thoughts you have been hiding from each other.

BTW: Prisons are full of "God-fearing" people.

Re: ". . . who seems to be an honest family man." Your use of the word "seems" is correct.  He is no more what he seems to be than are you.  You're beginning to notice that your karma keeps reminding you that you need to handle (complete) one or more incompletes before you're ready for your #10.  I'd recommend that you ask a parent or close friend for feedback about your choices in the future but I'm guessing that you wouldn't, such has been your addiction to blaming.

Re: ". . . I don't trust anyone." This I can get. You can't even trust yourself to select an honest partner. Welcome to reality. It's both irresponsible and unethical to trust anyone. It's a manipulative setup on your part; all you get to do is make them wrong when they do what people do—which is to tell the truth and honor agreements as long as it works for them to do so. There's only one place for someone you've placed on a pedestal to go.

What works is communication—totally different than talking. Communication has beginnings, middles, and ends. Never begin a new topic until all concerned are complete about the last topic, that it is mutually satisfying. When you're with a possible partner you'll notice that you'll have collected a lot of successful experiences of them keeping the simple day-to-day agreements, more importantly, of not blaming you when miscommunications take place. That's a good sign that you are making clear agreements and that you're worthy of their respect, and, that you have created space for them to operate responsibly, from cause.

Re: "I'm unable to trust." This is an unconscious decision for Abby's reply to not work. It's not in present-time. It's dragging the past into the now and future. A conscious person, one intent on having the reply work favorably, would have written, "I have been unable to trust." With love, Gabby