Communication-Skills Tutorial for Veterans (free) —best viewed with a laptop/desktop monitorVirtually no veteran leaves the military completely acknowledged for all their good and not-so-good deeds, jobs done well and those done poorly. An unacknowledged vet is not whole and complete; most vets drag remnants of incompletes left over from the military into each civilian interaction, each and every conversation—affecting all outcomes—for life.
"Military service automatically affects ones moral compass. Many vets still struggle with guilt for some of their actions and behaviors. The negative karma of all behaviors can be disappeared via communication* —thereby restoring/recreating ones experience of integrity, of deserving to have life and relationships work." —KerryThousands of conversations are required for a vet to complete his/her military experience (yes, thousands). When a vet doesn't have a relative, a friend, or a VA staff member skilled at communicating (at acknowledging, at getting underneath the false modesty, the drama, the embellishments, the omissions) the vet becomes stuck dramatizing their incompletes (often non-verbally for life) —many are driven to drugs/alcohol—approx. 40,000 have become homeless.
This tutorial includes an extremely powerful free clearing process (similar to an after-the-game debriefing but with virtual amnesty for all behaviors). It's irresponsible for the military to release an unacknowledged vet back into "the real world," especially a vet with thoughts of guilt hidden under layers of thousands of other incompletes. Eventually the military will include professional clearings during the Discharge Medical Exam.
This free tutorial includes a password-protected forum for coaching-conversations with a veteran now serving as leadership-relationship communication-skills coach.
Concerned about anonymity? Click Anonymouse and copy-paste "http://www.comcom121.org/vets" (without quotes) into "Enter website address" and press "Surf Anonymously" —you'll be returned to this page so as to continue the process without revealing any trackable IP data.
The topics below are for veterans, friends and parents of a veteran, or for anyone intent on acknowledging or positively supporting a vet.**
Family and friends of someone on active duty:
Acknowledging a Vet for his/her service to our country:***
PTSD—a breakdown in communication:
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* "communication" is different than talking or talking about. When one talks about a problem (such as PTSD) the problem persists, whereas when communication takes place the problem is defined accurately and responsibly—therefore it is resolved, it virtually disappears. Note: Therapists, counselors and teachers are not taught how to communicate. They are only introduced to the fundamentals and principles of speech and communication; mastery, as for everyone, is a trial and error process. It takes as many years to be an effective leadership-relationship communication-skills coach, a communicologist, as it takes to be a psychiatrist.
** ". . . positively supporting a vet." If a veteran you know is doing well then you have been a positive supporter; conversely, if the vet is not doing well then it has something to do with your leadership-communication support-skills. To expand your ability to be a positive supporter do The [free] Clearing Process for Professionals.
*** Tip: "Thank you for your service" is the very last sentence of an effective acknowledgment.
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