Babies are integrity meters:
Whenever your baby cries enough that it begins to frustrate or worry you, to cause you upset, it's the baby's way of letting you know that something's wrong, between you and your baby and between your partner and the baby and between you and your partner—you've lapsed into doing your imitation of communication with them.
When parents are in open and honest communication with each other, when they are complete, when both have verbally, responsibly, shared all of life's perpetrations with each other, the baby experiences the love and harmonious vibrations—the integrity of the relationship is whole and complete.
When parents* withhold significant thoughts from each other it creates a relationship condition referred to as "out-integrity" —something's missing (an experience of love, affection, respect) or, something has been added (an upset that has not been completed, a lie, a deceit or blame that's being dragged around into each interaction).
To create/recreate the experience of integrity both should do The Clearing Process, individually, and then, together, do the Clearing Process for Couples —both processes are free.
* "parents" When one partner withholds a significant thought from the other it automatically causes the other to withhold a significant thought. All divorces began when both partners brought their addictions to withholding and blaming into the relationship—on or before the first date. Both consciously chose to withhold a significant thought from the other.
For example: The "victim" of a prior infidelity issue began the deceit on the first date when he/she withheld a significant (deal-breaking) thought from the other.** I.e. Herpes, prior abusive relationship, dysfunctional family, a significant DNA consideration, a non-verbalized decision to have or not have sex on the first date.
** With 44+ years of facilitating thousands of 3-hour coaching sessions I have not found any exceptions to this phenomenon. —Kerry
Last edited 9/8/22