Integrity: Whole, complete, nothing added, nothing missing.
Examples of things added:
Guilt, anger, thoughts withheld
(deceit), health issues, unacknowledged or broken
agreement(s) .
Examples of things missing:
Prosperity, satisfaction, love, an experience of health, of being
acknowledged, or of withholding acknowledgment of another.
Uses:
1) In-integrity:
A person is said to be in-integrity when they have
acknowledged to themselves and another all their conscious withholds and
perpetrations* and, they experience being acknowledged. Integrity is not
a condition to be achieved and sustained except momentarily. We are in
and out of integrity throughout each day: Problem—problem solved,
unconscious closet—neat closet, complete relationship—incomplete
relationship, out-integrity—in-integrity.
2) Out-integrity/out of integrity:
A person is said to be
out-integrity when they have a withhold with another, when they have not
acknowledge a perpetration to themselves or another or when they are
withholding acknowledgement of themselves, another, or others. Also, a
goal set and not met, an agreement made and not honored, a
less-than-satisfying health issue, an unhappy relationship—all can be
completed (integrity can be restored) through acknowledgment
(communication).**
3)A person of integrity can be trusted to honor agreements, as good as
ones word.
The primary benefit of incorporating the integrity game into your
life is that you can begin the communication mastery curriculum; until
then you can't be sure if a less-than-desirable result is a consequence
of an unacknowledged out-integrity or simply about your communication
skills. For me, if I stub my toe, my first thought, (aside from
replicating the incident by doing a walk-though, placing my painful toe
against the object I hit, (which recreates the incident consciously and
most always disappears the pain) is to think, "H'm, I wonder what that's
about?" If no thought comes up then it was simply an accident. If, on
the other hand, my mind offers the thought that it could be remnants of
my upset about a survey taker's phone call just ten minutes earlier,
then I have two possibilities; it could be a consequence of an
incomplete (my rude treatment of a rude person) or, it could just be an
unconscious accident. Most always I can find a thought, an incomplete,
something that was in fact sapping my consciousness.
Whenever you have a breakdown in communication—such as someone
breaks an agreement with you, (say they fail to show up on time for an
appointment), or your child fails to do their chores, or your spouse
"forgets" to clean up the bathroom or to do his/her share of house
chores, or a friend doesn't return a tool when they promised—all can
always be traced to an out-integrity. Specifically, your integrity is
out and so is theirs. Communication, the truth, restores the integrity
of a relationship.
For example:
An employee shows up late for work. They proffer "heavy traffic" as
the reason. What's so is you, as his/her supervisor, have an
out-integrity with the employee. To begin with, you failed to
communicate the company's time agreements; you did your imitation of
communication. We know this is true because employees honor agreements
that are communicated (it's simply unthinkable to offer lame excuses to
someone you respect). In this case, "traffic" was not the truth, merely
one of hundreds of reasons.***
underneath which lies the truth. An employee who shows up late is
unconsciously wanting to be acknowledged (caught) for some other
unacknowledged incomplete/perpetration (at home or at work). With this
example, a clearing between the supervisor and the employee would reveal
that the supervisor failed to acknowledge the employee, for both their
excellent work and their sloppy work; they allowed the employee to
return home unacknowledged, especially feeling guilty for something they
broke on the job. It's also possible the employee is cheating on his/her
spouse and therefore life simply can't work for them. It's a
supervisor's responsibility to discover the source of a problem.
Here's more about integrity —the correlation between personal integrity
and outcomes.
*An unacknowledged perpetration (a
withhold) is always always being communicated non verbally; it's an aura
thing that can be experienced/sensed by someone who operates from
integrity.
**Acknowledgment: Talking about a
problem causes it to persist. Talking doesn't disappear a problem nor
does it disappear its charge. On the other hand, communicating a
problem, responsibly (from cause), disappears a problem. Communication
also disappears any negative karma/charge associated with a
perpetration. If your child acknowledges a perpetration and you punish
him/her the punishment causes its own undesirable consequences and,
keeps the child incomplete (often for life).
***If a supervisor accepts the
"traffic" lie, they become responsible for the compounding karma of
unconsciously supporting deceit. Ultimately it affects everyone,
especially the company. Most returned merchandise can be traced to a
single perpetration by an employee.
The free clearing processes for
individuals,
professionals,
couples, and
parents with children are supportive of restoring/maintaining ones
integrity, specifically, acknowledging (completing) ones childhood
communication breakdowns, the less than satisfying interactions.
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