Consultations (also referred to as clearing, coaching, mediation) v 10.1
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What's a communication consultation?
A consultation (also referred to as a consult, a clearing, coaching or mediation) is a three-hour session with a communication-skills consultant, a coach. It's similar in form to a session with a counselor or therapist; the difference being, its foundation is communication-education (coaching) as opposed to analysis, therapy, or trying to fix you. "There is nothing wrong with you; there are a few conversations you were supposed to have had with your parents that you've yet to have." —Kerry
A consult is for individuals, couples, families or small groups (usually up to ten people). Larger groups and organizations are better served with longer sessions or a workshop—so that everyone gets a chance to participate fully.
Usually a consult participant brings a specific problem they want resolved. Sometimes couples or business partners want to "improve" their communication skills. Sometimes parents are having a specific discipline problem with a child.
A communication consult is free of the implication that there is something mentally wrong with a person; it carries none of the stigma sometimes associated with therapy, nor does it need to be entered into job application/health forms.
With communication coaching you give another, the coach, permission to provide you with feedback about your communications.
The coach guides you sentence-by-sentence through to mutual satisfaction with each sentence for a period of three-hours. The experience is unlike any other in life. When communication takes place there is the experience of being gotten and validated.
Throughout the 3-hr conversation the coach will offer insights, corrections, and feedback in support of an experience of open, honest, spontaneous, and mutually satisfying communication. Most people say it transforms their experience of communication; it's virtually impossible for a consult to not have a powerful and beneficial effect on your life and relationships.
Most say that after a consultation the coach (as though sitting on their shoulder) is with them for life; such is the power of communication. As with communication-skills workshops there are no graduates—only life-long participants. A consult or a workshop is an experience of the transformative effects of communication and its potential—a brief experience of being willing to be supported in communicating responsibly, from cause—zero blame—a truly exciting new curriculum. Thereafter, for life, one can always tell when they have gone unconscious and have been doing his/her imitation of communication—it removes blame from the equation—never more a bully nor a victim.
What happens in a consult?
A consult is an opportunity to experience communication.
A consult participant grants permission to the coach to provide feedback. The premise is that the way an individual communicates creates specific types of problems, actions, and reactions from others. Coaching allows one to be conscious of unconscious abuses, errors and inaccuracies in ones communication model. That is to say, if someone keeps communicating from the same ground of being, without coaching, they will continue creating the same kinds of problems.
What happens when communication takes place is that there is an experience of satisfaction and completion. A consult is about communicating openly, honestly, and spontaneously. It's an opportunity to be coached. The facilitator puts in feedback and correction in support of everyone feeling good upon completion.
A teacher committed to manifesting his/her stated intentions has a coach on speed-dial (for life). i.e. "How do I support Mrs. Jones (a parent) in honoring the homework agreement?" or, "Something about the way I have been assigning homework causes some to not do it."
Who uses a consultant?
Anyone will get noticeable value from a consult.
Consult participants usually report that the three-hour session is extremely powerful. Most report that it transforms their experience of communication.
Why would I want to have a consultation?
Many people choose to do a consult simply because they know things can be so much better if they could just communicate
"better" or, "If only he/she . . . then I . . ." Or, "I
know I love my partner but I'm not experiencing it."
One of the givens in the consulting profession is: The problem is never ever what the client thinks it is. The mind hides the cause of, the source of, a problem from itself.
What's a telephone consult?
There are two types of consultations.
Telephone Consultation: Mondays — Fridays 9 a.m. - 12 noon or 1 p.m. - 4 p.m.
A telephone consult is for people who live too far from Pahoa (the Big Isle) Hawaii for a face-to-face consult to be practical; or, for when the expense of transportation and lodging to have the coach travel off-island is a bit much. Consults, either face-to-face or via telephone, are three-hours long.
You may make a telephone consultation appointment for just yourself or for yourself with another.
You must call from a corded (land-line) phone. If you are doing the consult with another you must have two corded phone instruments (cell/smart phones are not allowed due to signal/sun radiation problems or possible battery failure).
For couples, each person must be sitting in a separate room not in view of each other.
You may make a conference call but it must be handled by you with the other person on the line when you dial the coach.
You will dial the call to a 1-808 (Hawaii area code) number. The coach will send you the number by email once the date and time has been agreed upon.
The call will be charged to your phone bill by your phone company or long distance provider as a typical long distance call. Skype must be prearranged and tested.
If your appointment is for yourself alone you must ensure that others cannot overhear your conversation. This is very important.
Do not attempt to do a consultation with a child or baby in the house except that someone else can ensure zero interruptions for you.
American/British English must be your native tongue.
Face-to-Face Consultation: Mondays - Fridays 9 a.m. - 12 noon or 1 p.m. to 4 p.m.
A face-to-face consultation can take place on the Big Island of Hawaii or, off-island—if you're willing to pay the coach's first-class travel and 2-night accommodation expenses.
Typically, a face-to face consultation takes place at the coach's residence located in Pahoa, Hawaii, or a local hotel, or an off-island location.
Hotel (three star) reservations are made by the participant.
Big Island residents may request a consultation at any hotel on either side of the island (Hilo or Kona). Hotel and travel costs to Kona, and all off-island consultations, are paid for by the participant.
How much do consults cost?
Consultations are free—donations accepted.
After completing the above prerequisites you may make an Appointment for a free consultation.
When making an appointment from other than Hawaii
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