Consultations (also referred to as a clearing or coaching)

What's a communication consultation?
What happens during a consultation?
Who uses a consultant?
Why would I want to have a communication consultation?
What's a telephone consult?
Consulting Fees and Appointment Form

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what

What's a communication consultation?

A consultation, also called a consult, is a three-hour session with a communication skills consultant, a coach. It's similar in form to a session with a counselor or therapist. The difference being, its foundation is communication-education (coaching) as opposed to analysis or therapy.

A consult is for individuals, couples, families or small groups (usually up to ten people). Larger groups and organizations are better served with longer sessions or a workshop so that everyone gets a chance to participate fully.

Usually clients bring a specific problem they want resolved. Sometimes couples or business partners want to improve their communication skills. Sometimes parents are having a specific discipline problem with a child.

A communication consult is free of the implication that there is something mentally wrong with a person. It carries none of the stigma sometimes associated with therapy.

With communication coaching you give another, the coach, permission to provide you with feedback about your communications.

The coach guides you sentence by sentence through to mutual satisfaction with each sentence for a period of three hours. The experience is unlike any other in life. When communication takes place there is the experience of being gotten and validated.

Throughout the conversation the coach will offer insights, corrections, and feedback, to support you in communication-skills mastery—open, honest, spontaneous, and mutually satisfying communications. Most people say it transforms their experience of communication. It can have a powerful and beneficial effect on your life and in your relationships.

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happens

What happens in a consult?

A consult is an opportunity to experience communication.

Communication as used here is the exact opposite of talking. Talking is the activity that generates and perpetuates unwanted problems. Most clients report that they experience a transformation in communication as a result of a consult. It is experiential. Educators refer to it as "discovery learning." Participants produce different results after a consult.

For example: With therapy a client talks about their problem and returns home perhaps feeling better but most often with the same problem. Quite often there is an unconscious implied agreement that the client is expected to have the exact same problem, perhaps in remission, the next appointment. With a communicologist the agreement is that both are communicating with the intent to disappear problems. A communicologist does not remain engage in conversations with a person who intends on having the same problem another 24 hours.

A consult is not about learning or changing or stopping behaviors even though clients report that they learned quite a few important things.

The participants grant permission to the facilitator to provide coaching. The premise is that the way an individual communicates creates specific types of problems and reactions from others. The coaching allows one to be conscious of unconscious errors and inaccuracies in one's communication model. That is to say, if the participant keeps communicating from the same ground of being, without coaching, they will continue creating the same kinds of problems.

What happens when communication takes place is that there is an experience of satisfaction and completion. A consult is about communicating openly, honestly, and spontaneously. It's an opportunity to be coached. The facilitator puts in feedback and correction in support of everyone feeling good upon completion.

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who

Who uses a consultant?

Anyone.

• A consult is a wonderful way to get clear about whether or not to stay married.
• It's a great way to get to the bottom of issues with children (sickness, poor grades or behavior problems).
• It's great for parents who do use, or are seriously considering, corporal (spanking) punishment as a solution. Spanking is what adults resort to when they don't have the verbal skills to produce the desired results.
• It's great for an individual who frequently yells or creates another to yell in a relationship.
• It's a great way to take a relationship to the next level.
• It's extremely supportive of win-win divorce settlements (eliminates or reduces attorneys fees).
• It's an excellent thing to do if one is considering getting married; a facilitator will assist a couple in creating a communication model that teaches them how to communicate anger and upset. Most people dramatize, as opposed to communicate, anger consequently it gets dragged around for several minutes, hours or days.
• It's an excellent way to clean up a messy or stuck relationship. The intention to clean up a relationship is what does it; the consult is the actual conversations.

Consult participants usually report that the three-hour session is extremely powerful. Most report that it transforms their experience of communication.

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why

Why would I want to have a communication consultation?

Many people choose to invest in a communication consultation simply because they know things can be so much better than they are, if they could just communicate better.
 
There doesn't need to be a specific reason. However, people may choose to have a consultation for support in the following:

• To go over the delivery of an important pending communication (marriage proposal, asking for a raise, etc.)
• To get clear before making a big decision (getting married, getting a divorce, having children, moving, changing jobs).
• To get to the source of a problem. To discover what it is about the way you communicate that's producing undesirable results.
• If your words are falling on deaf ears. "Do your homework," "Pick up your clothes," "I'll see you at 7:00," isn't producing the desired results (it's never ever the other).
• To clean up a mess you have created in your relationship with another.

One of the givens in the consulting profession is: The problem is never ever what the client thinks it is. The mind hides the source, the cause, of a problem from itself.

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telephone

What's a telephone consult?

There are two types of consultations.

1) Telephone Consultation

2) Face-to-face Consultation

telephone consult

A telephone consult is for people who live too far from Pahoa Hawaii for a personal consult to be financially practical. Or, when the added expense for transportation and lodging to have the consultant travel off-island is a bit much. Typically, consults, either face-to-face or a telephone consult, are three-hours long. telephone

You may make a telephone consultation appointment for just yourself or to attend with another.

If you are doing the consult with another you must have two phone instruments (cordless and cell phones are discouraged due to possible battery failure).

Each person must be sitting in a separate room not in view of each other.

You may also make arrangements for a conference call but it must be handled by you with the other person on the line when you dial the coach.

You will originate the call to a 1-808 (Hawaii area code) number. The coach will send you the number by e-mail once the date, time, and fee has been handled.

We recommend that you schedule an appointment for an evening (your time) when rates are lower. The call will be charged to your phone bill by your phone company or long distance provider as a typical long distance call. I am absolutely fine with 11pm or 3am calls.

If your appointment is for yourself alone, you must ensure that others cannot overhear your conversation. This is very important.

Do not attempt to do a consultation with a child or baby in the house except that another can ensure zero interruptions for you.

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Face-to-Face Consultation:

You may elect to make an appointment for a face-to-face consultation.

A face-to-face consultation can take place on the Big Island of Hawaii or off-island.

Typically a face-to face consultation take place at the facilitator's residence or a hotel.

The hotel reservation is made by the facilitator.
The fee for the hotel room is included in the cost of the consultation.

Big Island residents may request a consultation at a hotel on either side of the island (Hilo or Kona). Travel costs for Kona consults will be added to a Kona consultation.

How much do consults cost?

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When making an appointment from other than Hawaii
check here for the time in Hawaii.