All dissatisfactions with sex are a consequence of both partners withholding the same number of thoughts (yes, both and same) from the other—fear, uncomfortableness, and embarrassment are the most common reasons.
Sex without conscious synchronous breathing is rudimentary high school sex; it's as far from true intercourse as talking is from communicating.
"Conscious synchronous breathing" meaning: To synchronize your breathing (inhalations and exhalations) with your partner's. This intention replaces the usual thoughts and techniques, it allows one to experience amazing subtle sensations. It creates space for couples to experience being one with the other.
The mental activity of breathing together, of inhaling and exhaling at the same time, gives the mind something to do other than allowing distracting thoughts to pop up while trying to please or to be pleasured, or goal-oriented efforting to give/gather sensations.
Focusing on synchronous breathing is similar to chanting or mindful medication; it distracts the mind from thinking life's energy sapping reoccurring thoughts. If one chants for 15-minutes, those fifteen minutes give the mind a recess from thinking the usual crap it does automatically, non-stop, throughout the day. The same phenomenon takes place with synchronous breathing, without moving; it's referred to as genuine intercourse, experiential sex, it creates space for other experiences of "being" such as with Tantric sex.
The prerequisite for synchronous breathing: A couple must communicate openly, honestly, and spontaneously (no significant thoughts withheld). A thought withheld serves as a barrier to experiencing exquisite loving intercourse. To create space to be with another,* do The [free] Clearing Process. Then, upon completion invite your partner to do it; then, together you can do the Clearing Process for Couples—also free—it's guaranteed to produce an experience of love, of communication, of genuine intercourse.
* An excellent activity for dating teens. Invite a date to do the Couple's Clearing with you and you'll have a friend for life—the process creates space to experience love; it cannot not work.
Note: Teens who have sex believe they love each other; they have peak emotions they believe to be love. However, if both are withholding significant thoughts from each other and from their respective family members, if both have conned each other into deceiving both sets of parents so as to have sex behind their backs, then they are out-integrity. Love can't exist between two who are perpetrating deceits on each other or others. It's referred to as doing ones imitation of communication.
Last edited 7/24/20