1) Look for a boy who trash-talks his teachers and parents or blames them for the rules and curfews.
- For example: "My stupid parents want me home by 11 pm" —an irresponsible blaming badmouthing communication. In other words, if you are aware of a perpetration/deceit between a boy and his parents (indicative of disrespect) then you know that he will disrespect your relationship with your parents. You will be able to con him into conning both sets of parents so as to have sex behind their backs; worse, he will non-verbally con you into deceiving your parents rather than insisting that you both discuss your intimacy urges with both sets of parents first. Eventually you will unconsciously set it up for him to deceive you.* A boy who will have sex without first introducing you to his parents has been trained, like yourself, to deceive his parents.
- If his father is emotionally bound-up (a virtual walking withhold who's clearly uncomfortable talking about sex) then there is unacknowledged non-verbalized fear in the relationship between them—such that hugging his father has become uncomfortable. This means the boy will search for anyone who will hug ("love") him as his parents used to. Note: The love that most teens profess for each other is not love. Love can't exist in a space occupied by deceit, in a relationship in which there is deceit with ones parents. Such "love" is body-chemically induced, as opposed to love that is generated through open, honest, and spontaneous communication with zero significant thoughts withheld between them.
- A boy whom you know will provide you with your first alcohol/drugs, a boy who will support you in breaking your curfew agreement with your parents.
- You know you've got a winner if he, like yourself, will not, before the first intimacy between you, bring up the subject of who pays for what in the event of an "accidental" pregnancy; this reveals that he is an unconscious con who's ripe for the karma generated by cons. You will be able to con him into "accidentally" impregnating you so that you don't have to study for a profession. If you were to ask him how much it costs to raise a child the very first year (including hospital fees) and then through to age 18, he would, like yourself, not have a clue.
- A responsible parent will insist upon a sit-down birds-and-bees talk with both teens, discussing who pays for what in the event of an "accidental" pregnancy. Parents need to hear that both of you are completely aware of the consequences to both careers in the event of a pregnancy, specifically, that it not be an accident—possibly, depending upon the agreement with her parents—she may have to move out if she chooses to play the expensive baby game while still in school.
- Better still, look for a "bad" boy that your close friends advise against dating him.
- Find one with whom you can easily hide one or more deal-breaking thoughts from. Such a boy is always withholding one or more significant thoughts from you.
- Such a boy is karmically more likely to have an accident with a condom, and who probably won't tell you if he sees that the sperm has seeped out at the top of the condom.
Note 2: All divorced couples withheld one or more significant thoughts from each other on their first date. There are no exceptions to this entanglement phenomenon.
Note 3: Most fathers are not in-communication with their sons, they've become stuck doing their imitation of communication with everyone in the family. Such a son will search for "love" because he's not experiencing the love that he used to as a child. I believe this is because most fathers, when they were teens never knew how to get into communication with teenage boys, never learned how to be comfortable talking with boys, so, as a teen on a date they simply drew a girl closer so as to have sex rather than engage is respectful relationship communications. Therefore, they don't know how to communicate with their own teenage boy.
Gabby is not at all against teen intercourse. True intercourse is characterized by open, honest, and spontaneous communication—zero significant withholds, between the couple and both sets of parents; it's foundation is integrity.
* Given that the majority of parents teach their children to lie, evidenced by the fact that the majority of teens support each other in deceiving both sets of parents so as to have sex, we ask, is there a correlation between ones deception about their first sex and the fact that 50% of all married couples end up divorced? And of those couples 50% co-created fidelity issues. Read: Creating a marriage vow that precludes cheating. Tip: The [free] Clearing Process supports one in disappearing the undesirable karma of life's unacknowledged perpetrations. Invite someone, a boy or girl, to do it also, then you both can do The [free] Clearing Process for Couples and you'll have a friend for life—it's an awesome process that supports communication mastery.
** 33 billion child-support dollars had to be collected from dead-beat dads in 2016.
Last edited 1/25/21