Conversations to have during your engagementThe following is excerpted from the free Relationship Communication-Skills Tutorial. The tutorial includes a list of 15 different conversations that tutorial participants are encouraged to have during their engagement. Each conversation includes optional free personal coaching with the tutorial coach. If you are afraid to bring up some of these topics you will not be able to sustain the experience of love and satisfaction in your marriage. Here are two of the conversation topics:
1) To spank or not spank our children? Spanking is what a parent resorts to when he/she has lost their ability to produce a desired behavior lovingly through verbal communication. Children have no choice but to mirror the integrity of his/her parents, specifically, their leadership-communication skills. Misbehaving and unsatisfactory performance in school are how a child brings to the attention of his/her parents (eventually community authorities) that they (the parents) have lapsed into their imitation of communication. There are no exceptions to this phenomenon. There is a way to communicate, a communication model, that creates a context at the beginning of a relationship so as to preclude the necessity of spanking. 2) Shall we have a prenuptial agreement?
A prenuptial agreement is a document that defines the splitting of the possessions in the event of a divorce? Is your mind open to conversations about a prenuptial agreement or have you unconsciously shut down the space for communication to take place? Does your partner know intuitively to not bring up the subject because he/she knows you'd use it as proof of lack of love/commitment?
If you manipulate your partner
(verbally/non verbally, especially after reading this tip) away
from discussions about a prenup agreement you are unconsciously
masterminding a contentious divorce. If you read this and
don't
show it (not just relate what you remember
about it) to your partner your deception will have an
undesirable consequence. If you discover some of your partner's solid beliefs too late
it will be the beginning of the end of personal growth within
the relationship. The difference between "communication" and talking?
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