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For example:

It is abusive of you to hang around someone equally addicted to abuse. It's called entrapment. Not unlike a police "sting operation" there could be no crime if it weren't for you.

Entrapment is you, consciously or unconsciously, setting it up, goading another with pathetic, wimpy, trying, apologetic, cowardly, irritating, or "loving act" behaviors, to trigger emotional and/or physical abuse so that you can be right, and get community agreement, that your partner/parent is sicker than you. It's how you draw attention away from your sickness, your addiction to covertly creating abuse.

The fact that you continue to relate with an abuser causes the abuser to think less of you. You are a source of embarrassment, a nauseating reflection; hourly you remind the abuser of his/her disgusting sickness, and, that only a very sick weak person would hang around someone needing so much therapy. 

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Entrapment:

The conscious or unconscious communications that cause (creates space for) another to commit a perpetration.

Intending, enabling or empowering another to commit a perpetration through association or companionship.

Note: Contrary to belief, an intention can be unconscious. The measure of one's intention is not what they say or believe they are up to but the result.

Notice how much agreement there is that it's ok to entrap someone?

The majority of citizens have given permission to our police to be deceitful. We have voted, nonverbally, silently, that it's permissible for a police officer to pose as someone wanting to buy sex or drugs, thereby causing a crime that would not have taken place had the police officer not been there to intend it.

A "sting" policy does not allow for (intend) that by one's exemplary behavior, (say a police chief committed to truth, keeping agreements and zero deceits) can and does inspire integrity. A cop on patrol to entrap someone has no intention that evening for their prey to have an epiphany and choose, just at the moment they were deciding to commit a perpetration, to suddenly go straight.

Each law abiding person can, with a little coaching, remember the first incident in which, right at a critical moment, they choose to go straight and not commit a perpetration. Quite often the turning point was when someone walked up, a car came by, a parent came home, a teacher walked down the aisle, a clerk or a test proctor looked at you.

Picture if you will what life would be like if our police officers had the reputation of impeccable integrity. Visiting a police station would be a spiritual, uplifting, inspiring, experience due to the fact that only the nicest, most ethical and compassionate people were selected to be police officers.

What you'll notice among those who advocate entrapment is that they are addicted to arguing and abuse. It is virtually impossible to have a conversation with most law enforcement officials/officers about this subject except that you will walk away from the conversation not feeling good, not being gotten. The experience is one of being invalidated. At best you will get, "Yes, you're right. We don't want you to lie and deceive yet we do it, and, I don't value you enough to stop doing it." An honest person, needs no reasons or justifications for their actions. Most police officers lie and deceive and create reasons for doing so.

So strong is a police chief's attachment to his/her position, "It's the only way"  or, "Other police departments do it." that they are unable/unwilling to acknowledge the unethicalness of their actions. Worse yet, they cannot see the awesome effects it has throughout the community. The police mirror our standards—like ourselves they believe it's ok to deceive another if the reason is good enough. This societal agreement makes it extremely challenging for someone in an abusive relationship to acknowledge that they are entrapping another.

As with all unethical acts there are reasons. Reasons given are never ever the truth as to the source of the behavior.

Trigger:

The word "trigger" is to remind you that the hurt is already there. The hurt and pain is left over from a childhood conversation, an interaction, an incomplete. We set up life to recreate the incident. We look for someone to trigger the memory, with all the associated hurt and pain of the first incomplete, so that we can complete it instead of dragging it around dramatizing it.

If, after an interaction with you, your partner is upset or angry,

and, you don't have the ability to clean up the mess (communicate through to mutual love and happiness) within a period of hours, definitely before going to bed,  

then no matter what your mind, or anyone tells you, the way you communicated/related produced that result. If you know that you have this effect, if you don't inspire health and happiness, and if you choose to continually interact with him/her, then you are entrapping them, quite possibly to eventually get them sent to jail. Evil is knowing you have this effect and staying with the person.

Remember, you can no longer say you didn't know that there are circumstances in which you lose your prerogative to press charges—that sometimes the police have no choice but to ignore your wishes. In most cases your spouse ends up with a police record and you don't. Look now to see if that's not what you're up to.