Do you know what percent of divorced couples would say that communication was the
major contributing factor in the divorce?
I don't know if there is even one
couple who would say that the problem wasn't or didn't begin or end as a communication
problem.
Given that all the results we produce in life have to do with how we communicate and,
that most individuals have developed their own special way of relating, it's amazing that
we do as well as we do.
One of the advantages of spending time with a communication consultant is that he/she
can teach a couple a special communication model that can be called into play when things
are bumpy. When you have two communication models, the one your parents taught you, or that
you learned on your own, and another, a rock solid, unforgettable foundation, a win-win
communication model, you then have choice.
Usually what happens when an individual gets upset is that they resort, automatically,
unconsciously, back to the communication model they learned through their parents.
Most people don't have a choice but to argue. Everyone knows you can't win an argument with your
mom, at least when she's in her "mom" role, or with your dad, when he's in his
self righteous protective mode.
One nice thing about learning a new way of relating is that it increases the chances
that if you do divorce you'll still be friends for the children to emulate.
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