Hi Wor: The brief answer is yes, two people can ". . . have a long-lasting relationship if one of them doesn't like the other's friends?" but not happily as primary partners.

Yours is a great question to be asking during this phase of the relationship. You are fortunate to discover now that you are addicted to abusing and to being abused.

An actualized confident young woman would have put a stop mid-sentence at the very first experience of abuse. She would have somehow communicated, with a look, or comportment/demeanor, or words, or, (if powerful and clear about abuse), through intention, that such behavior was unacceptable around her. If all failed she would have announced she was leaving.

If you were complete with your experience of abuse, such behavior around you would be unthinkable. At best it was a set-up —they were unconsciously hoping you were mature and confident enough to catch/stop them with their inappropriate teen behaviors. Your silence communicated that you are unworthy of respect and therefore you caused (unconsciously intended) the abuse to escalate, so as to have this conversation. It's a brilliant way to address your fears, yes?

Notice that you chose a boyfriend equally addicted to, and supportive of, abuse. He is oblivious (it's called in-denial) to the abuse others inflicted upon the one he "loves." That you couldn't recognize the behavior as abusive says that you also are in denial. That he didn't stop them means he's an enabler. He most likely would support his parents in abusing you.

Also, you wrote, "They are the sort of people who, if you mention . . ." This is badmouthing and stereotyping. Most assuredly I would have gotten a different response. A conscious person, intent on relating the facts, as opposed to labeling them and blaming him, making him wrong, would have written, ". . . and when I mentioned that . . ." And, "I unconsciously replied to (argued about) a make-wrong comment."

A good question to ask is: How did he know, with certainty, that you would put up with the disrespectful raucus banter of his friends? The answer: You communicated it non-verbally. There's something about your aura that doesn't inspire respect. Your integrity is out. It could be said that you've lost some of your wholesomeness. This comes from the many abusive interactions you've had throughout life (most likely arguing, yelling and make-wrongs with parents). Each interaction didn't feel good to the other. Each incident traumatized yet another of your face's happy muscles. BTW: These incompletes, these less than satisfying communications, can all be completed using The Clearing Process (it's free, it works).

Here's a gross analogy: If your boyfriend knew you were a truly "nice" smart, intelligent, college-bound girl I'm guessing he wouldn't have dared to ask you out—possibly because he knows he's not deserving of a "nice" girl—too good, too smart. If you've been intimate with him then he knows you don't deserve respect. Why?  Because you conned him into deceiving both sets of parents for your first sex. Any boy who supports a girl in deceiving her father is not on the way up; he will need to crash and burn so as to experience the karma of conning and deceit.