A person is said to be at effect of something when they have no choice
other than to react.
For example:
— Someone gets angry and you automatically
get upset instead of simply getting (being with) their anger. —
Someone calls you stupid and you have no choice other than to react angrily instead of simply getting
it. — Someone drives less than the posted speed and you automatically
get upset, rather than intend they drive at that speed. —
Someone swears and you automatically, self-righteously, judge them.* — Someone compliments you and you blush. In other words, there's something
about being acknowledged that causes a somatic reaction. — You
find yourself automatically judging a teacher who has a neck tattoo.
* You react differently when you hear/read the
word fuck—Did reading the word "fuck" just now trigger
a twinge of something? There are several free fun communication exercises that will
free you from automatic reactions. To begin restoring your integrity do
The Clearing Process (it's free and it works).
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