Supporting a Service Member

. . . accelerating the communication mastery process

The following presumes that you have a friend or loved one in the service now.

We begin with the premise that one cannot not support. Each of us, using our unique set of leadership (verbal, non-verbal, and psychic) communication skills, either forward others or we unconsciously intend for them to stay stuck in mediocrity; some, for various reasons, are driven to thwart others.

The way to tell which set of leadership-support skills you have mastered is to look at the results those around you are producing. Is everyone around you enjoying their activities, keeping their agreements, handling their debts responsibly, continually acknowledging their perpetrations, and lots of laughing and giggling throughout each day? If yes, then it can be said that you've mastered supporting others positively. As with other benefits from playing the enlightenment game, the way to maintain and expand upon your support skills is to share yourself with as many others as possible (enrolling others in having life work).

Think of this subject as a Boot Camp for Civilians. It's perfectly appropriate that you undergo an equally transforming educational experience as did your friend during his/her boot camp; your's is about expanding your ability to positively support others and to manifesting your stated intentions.

We're going to say that the oft repeated phrase, we are all connected, is even more true than we've been aware of. We know that our personal integrity affects all our own outcomes. In other words, you know that the condition (the integrity) of your house, car, finances, taxes, and relationships all affect your outcomes; however, what's also true is that your integrity affects everyone with whom you relate, including the one who's now serving for you in the military.

The above paragraph could trigger lots of thoughts. It entertains the uncomfortable notion that somehow there is (as Einstein called it) a faster-than-light, "spooky" connection between us. Through this mysterious entanglement the karma of each of your actions is synched with everyone including your friend, say in Afghanistan. Our mind usually stops us short of the realization that an out-integrity at home (say a verbal/non-verbal abusive communication with a family member, not acknowledged and cleaned up through-to-mutual-satisfaction) could affect the success of a military mission.

It has yet to become part of any mission-briefing protocol to ask a soldier before going out on the mission if he/she has any unacknowledged perpetrations, anything that might affect the success of the mission; yet when asked, there is always always an incomplete in the space that could (and often does) serve as a barrier to manifesting a stated intention. There are no exceptions to this phenomenon.

For example: It used to be that if one asked a Navy SEAL who was a member of a mission that did not go as planned, "Do you know of any member of the team who was/is cheating on his spouse, taxes, or insurance?" the answer would always be yes, or at best, "I'm not sure/I don't know." Back then, buddies were not responsible for the personal integrity of their team members. Trainings did not address the correletion between integrity and outcomes.

This is where you at home can serve your country. You can formulate an intention to tap into the value from playing the integrity game.

If you'd like expand your ability to positively support a service member please do The Clearing Process for Professionals, (press the Clearing Process button) one clearing per day for five days in a row; then share your thoughts or ask a question on the free Message Board.