to inter-personal/intra-personal communication a
perpetration is anything you have done or not done for which you
feel badly. In this context it has nothing to do with legality
or the law. You may or may not be aware that you feel badly due
to having so many other perpetrations. If someone else thinks
it's a perpetration and you don't then it's not, at least not
until this moment; it could be that you are/were
For example: Most civilians are unconscious when they
enter the military and so they
deny or resist acknowledging and experiencing the unethicalness of
killing—until they have participated in doing so. Later, as they
continue on their spiritual path, they begin to
experience compassion, often at home when they are trying to
figure out why life's not rewarding them for their service. In the quiet of their
mind they experience the profound realization that they have
been dragging around (into each and every conversation with others)
Another example: Few vets ever acknowledge, both to
themselves or verbally to anyone else, that they feel badly for having
killed or supported or participated in the killing of another.
They may feel badly but they have never told anyone,
specifically, the words,* "I feel badly for . . ." Such a perpetration unacknowledged affects all present-day
outcomes; communicating guilt non-verbally, via energy-sapping
addiction/homeless-type melodrama, is irresponsible; it's controlling and
those whom you manipulate into interacting with you daily. This
tutorial supports you in acknowledging all such perpetrations,
verbally or in writing, so
that you begin to have choices again.
Some examples of perpetrations:
— Perhaps you feel badly for having
stolen something and, you've hid the incident from everyone.
— Perhaps you've never told anyone that you cheated on an exam
or in a relationship.
— Quite possibly
you've led everyone to believe that you are an honest person
yet you know you have been involved in deceptions.
— As a veteran you may have
pushed to the back of your mind what you know to be true,
that it's unethical to kill another; you invented reasons (or bought into
other's reasons) to justify killing or destroying another's property. At the time your integrity
was so out it didn't bother you enough to change your behavior. At that time it might not have been a perpetration
— Some vets unconsciously get wounded so as to
extract themselves from an unethical situation with
acceptable honor; acknowledging any outcome responsibly,
from cause, is transformational.
— Perhaps you lied to a date or classmate.
— You may have conned someone you were dating into deceiving both sets of parents
so as to have sex.
— Quite possibly you now know that you
thwarted the success of your penmanship teacher; now
wondering why the "universe" thwarts you.
— Possibly you badmouthed conscientious objectors for
refusing to participate in killing others.
—Possibly you initiated, or supported the trash-talking of
Examples for Men:
— Perhaps you now feel badly for treating girls
condescendingly, as though they weren't capable of paying their own way.
— You may have supported a date in deceiving her parents.
— Perhaps you feel badly for having talked (manipulated-conned-pressured-forced) a girl into
having sex, knowing full well she initially had said no.
— Possibly you thwarted another's relationship for sexual gratification.
— Possibly you have misrepresented yourself on a job application.
Examples for Women:
— Perhaps you feel badly knowing that you ran a con on
most boys (conning them into paying your way); possibly you conned some teachers.
— Maybe you told your parents you were going to the
library and have yet to acknowledge that lie to them,
not realizing it's still having an effect. Each and
every lie and truth you've told continues to have an effect.
Arrogance is the belief that your communications don't have
an effect on all others.
— You may feel badly for having unconsciously decided to
not apply yourself in school, instead falling back on
convention—to get married—to have another/welfare take care of
you—rather than study for a career so as to be self-sufficient.
— Perhaps, because
of your leadership-communication skills, you're now
locked into an abusive/mediocre relationship with no
— You may have consciously/unconsciously decided
to con your partner into impregnating you so as to have
a child, knowing others would have to pay, thus revealing
the contempt and disrespect you have for your neighbors.
There are no "accidental"
— Possibly your high school clique excluded others in a hurtful way.
— You may have silently condoned the badmouthing of
The major negative effect of a perpetration is
not just that you did it, but that you have hid it, from
yourself, some specific person, or from everyone. You are in
fact walking around with no one knowing the real you. That's
OK. Everyone with whom you relate is hiding his/her item of
choice from you. They too have become their "honest act." The effect
is, your act is relating with everyone else's acts. I say
"relating with" instead of "communicating with" because there is no experience of communication when there
are withholds in a relationship; such interactions are
referred to as talking.
The negative karma of
all (yes all) perpetrations can be disappeared through
Clearing Process or
Communication is different than talking.
Speech-Communication Professors talk to education majors
about communication; few get into communication with a
student (although most believe they do) so as to
positively affect a student's relationships—especially
with his/her parents. i.e. Most students have one or
more perpetrations they withhold from their parents;
ergo, they are all stuck doing their
imitation of communication
with each other and everyone—usually for life.
i.e. Education majors, are not taught how to communicate
subject matter (no excuses, no reasons), each must
discover how to cause communication to take place—few
* Saying the words, "I
feel guilty" without the experience of having killed a
mother's precious child (as though she were in your
presence) is a good start but it's not the same as
experiencing the guilt. The mind rationalizes killing
for "good" reasons." Some grouchy, unhappy, unhealthy
WWII vets still hate the "Japs."