Perpetrations:

A perpetration is anything you have done or not done for which you feel badly. In this context it has nothing to do with the law.

You may or may not be aware that you feel badly about it due to having so many other perpetrations. If someone else thinks it's a perpetration and you don't then it's not, at least not for you at this moment in time; it could be that you are/were simply unconscious.

Some examples of perpetrations:

• Perhaps you feel badly for having stolen something, and, you've hid the act from everyone.


• Perhaps you've never told anyone that you cheated on an exam.


• Quite possibly you've led everyone to believe that you are an honest person yet you know you have been involved in deceptions.


• As a vet you may have been unconscious that it's unethical to kill another; you invented reasons to justify killing or destroying another's property. At the time your integrity was so out that it didn't bother you enough to change your behavior. At that time it might not have been a perpetration for you.


• Some vets unconsciously get wounded so as to extract themselves from an unethical situation with acceptable honor.


• Perhaps you lied to a date or classmate.


• You may have deceived someone you were dating, or both sets of parents.


• Quite possibly you now know that you sabotaged the success of your penmanship teacher.

Examples for Men:

• Perhaps you now feel badly for treating girls from condescension, as though they weren't capable of paying their own way.


• You may have supported a date in deceiving her parents.
  


• Perhaps you feel badly for having talked (manipulated) a girl into sex, knowing full well she had said no.


• Possibly you thwarted a friend's relationship for selfish reasons.
  


• Possibly you have misrepresented yourself on a job application.

Examples for Women:

• Perhaps you feel badly knowing that you ran a con on most boys (conning them into paying your way), possibly you conned some teachers.


• Maybe you told your parents that you were going to the library and have yet to acknowledge that lie to them, not realizing it's still having an effect.


• You may feel badly for having unconsciously decided to not apply yourself in school, instead falling back on convention—to get married—rather than have a career.


• Possibly your clique excluded others in a hurtful way.


• You may have silently condoned the badmouthing of another.

The major negative effect of a perpetration is not just that you did it, but that you have hid it, from yourself, some specific person, or from everyone. You are in fact walking around with no one knowing the real you. That's OK. Everyone with whom you relate is hiding his/her item of choice from you. They also have become their "honest act." The effect is, your act is relating with everyone else's acts. I say "relating with" instead of "communicating with" because in truth there is no experience of communication when there are withholds in a relationship; such interactions are referred to as talking.