Earlier I mentioned that many people have a difficult time grasping the dictionary definition of the word responsibility. They read the definition, set the dictionary down, and can't remember what they read. Something like a mental block happens.

It's possible that as the mind is reading the definition something happens when it comes to

3. Being a source or cause

Perhaps the mind computes instantaneously just how the definition applies to its life. If looking at life's "happenings" from responsibility, from cause, conflicts or differs from one's memory of things, specifically a childhood incident, there's a possibility the mind shuts down. It doesn't want to hear that stuff. It does so to protect itself, its reality, its very survival. So it goes blank when it thinks about what it just read.

For example:

If the mind, as it's reading this stuff, is concurrently recalling, even unconsciously, a childhood incident in which it was severely beaten as a three year old, this "cause and source" stuff doesn't compute. It reads, cause, except for certain extenuating circumstances. If you have an incident such as a molestation, or forced entry aggravated assault while you were sleeping, your mind knows, with absolute certainty, that you were not cause. This is a most difficult thing to compute.

It's too Zen. The mind doesn't like paradoxes. Both stories about what happened can't be true or false, and, true and false.

If you read earlier the dialogue with Kimo, the boy who told the story of what happened from blame, perhaps you got a sense that as a teaching tool 100% responsibility was the appropriate way to handle him. However, if you don't like, or disagree with that point of view, of how I recommended he be handled, then it might work for you to look into your childhood for an incident in which you have yet to tell the story from cause.

In our workshops the topic of responsibility triggers lots of upset. Anger and rage comes up for some participants. Behind each emotion is an incomplete, an incident for which the workshop participant has yet to accept responsibility. Once the truth is told the person is never the same for life. It's truly liberating.

This completes the prerequisite. Thank you.

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