Kimo, a young student, might say to you, "Tommy hit me."

You would say, "I got that. What else is there about that?"

We are going to assume here that Kimo is still dramatizing the incident, still in his victim act, still communicating irresponsibly, still lying, and more blame comes out.

You would then say, "Good. Thank you. Now tell me what happened from how you caused it?"

One of the foremost barriers to the experience of communication (transmission of subject matter) between students and teachers is the unacknowledged lies, lies that teachers don't notice or let slip—don't handle through to mutual satisfaction.

If a teacher consciously or unconsciously allows a lie or deceit to go unacknowledged, they become cause, responsible, for the student's subsequent failures. It's the beginning of disrespect in the relationship; children and parents alike search for a teacher who can't be conned.

A person's integrity is always at work. Misbehaving, failing, or getting sick are typical signs of a breakdown in communication between the teacher and the student and the student's parents. Failing is a student's unconscious way of drawing someone's attention to the fact that they are not in-communication with anyone.

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