Clearing Process for Professionals

Affects:

Examples of how your leadership-communication skills affect yourself and others.

• Your child has been getting poor grades. They can remember a time when you were in communication with them and it hasn’t happened for a long time. Failing/misbehaving is a child’s unconscious way of drawing attention to the fact that you’ve lapsed into doing your imitation of communication. If getting poor grades or misbehaving doesn’t work they often turn to the “happiness” of drugs. Young teens simply turn to sex to get "love."
   
• You say you want your spouse to do his/her share of the chores yet the results reveal something else needs to be handled first; there’s another communication in the space. He/she is communicating something (non-verbally) and you're not getting it so they’ll have to keep thwarting you until you learn how to communicate. It’s your leadership-communication skills that are producing this result.
   
• You thought you had an agreement with a friend to repay you some money but they haven’t. He/she gave you a clue that they couldn’t be trusted to honor the agreement when you were lending it to them but you had a lifetime of unacknowledged communication breakdowns cluttering up your mind so you couldn’t see clearly. You were unconscious.
   
• You ask your spouse a question and it triggers anger. It reveals that there is an incomplete (something left over from an earlier interaction, possibly even as far back as childhood) in the space.

The above are examples of communication breakdowns. When you unconsciously drag an incomplete (a prior less-than-satisfying communication) into a new conversation the incomplete occupies space and serves as a barrier to mutually satisfying communication.

Most of us aren’t disciplined to keep a diary/journal in which one records each day’s wins and less-than-satisfying outcomes so as to be complete in preparation for starting anew the next day. The Clearing Process is an excellent way to clean up (so to speak) life, to start anew. It works. It’s free.

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