It's most likely your parents didn't know how to disappear upsets (via communication) so as to be happy and so they couldn't teach you how to complete any upset through to mutual satisfaction (happiness) within a single sit-down. This is because their parents, teachers, and clergy unconsciously taught them to blame and deceive and to withhold significant thoughts from each other.*
* All (yes all) divorced couples entered into the relationship having withholds and deceits between them and their own parents. They both brought their addictions to blaming and to withholding significant thoughts into the new relationship.** Most conned each other into deceiving both sets of parents so as to have their first sex; all concerned oblivious of the negative consequences of unacknowledged deceit.
All couples magnetically attract someone to mirror their integrity. The majority bring their belief, that it's OK to lie if the reason is good enough, into each relationship.
** Typical withholds are—a plan to have, or not have, sex on the first date,*** STD-herpes history, have children, have had a former abusive relationship, have a dysfunctional family, have family health/DNA/mental history considerations, financial considerations (obligations/expenses) that ethically need to be shared, all before the first kiss.
The way to teach children to be happy is to be happy. The way to be happy is, to tell the truth, zero significant thoughts withheld.
*** Ethical teens declare what's so upfront, "Yes, I'd love to go out with you, but no sex or drugs, OK?"
Here's a free integrity check process, https://www.comcom121.org/clearing/. When both partners do the process it virtually assures that there will be no cheating. If you invite a date to do the process and they decline check out Recommended Readings.
Last edited 2/23/22