Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

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Gabby
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Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

Postby Gabby » Mon Oct 18, 2010 1:18 pm

Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

These thoughts are for anyone thinking about getting implants; they address considerations held by many parents. This might appear to be advice against getting implants, in truth it’s simply a collection of paragraphs that might be of value in making your decision.

Test: If you believe you are still in choice about whether to "get them," as opposed to having already made a decision, then you will be able to read this entire page. Those who are pretending to be open to feedback will not be able to read everything, they intuit that some truth, another's thought, might change their already made-up mind.

Question: What do your parents think about breast implants? Going against ones parents, be it marrying someone they disapprove of, or getting implants against their wishes, are powerful communications of your intention to take off down a path they intuit will lead to unhappiness. It could be that you intend to fail so as to punish them for real or imagined failures. The test is to see, if when you do The Clearing Process, you uncover/recall withholds between you and your parents. A clearing will reveal if your desire is driven (programmed) by one or more incompletes.

One downside to having implants is that you'll only be attractive to a small percentage of the available single men, those who have no problem with disproportionately large, bulging, hard, unnatural silicon pouches. Some might say that you'll only be attractive to those men for whom their first impression of a woman is as a sex object. You'll never be certain if they like you for who you are or for your breasts.

There are millions and millions of men who are automatically turned off by implants. It's not that the majority of men (women also) don't find them attractive, they actually find them repulsive; they will of course glance at you but for many it reminds them of their own shallowness. These people are a polite silent majority.

Silicone breasts are the ultimate control communication; they virtually force another to look at the breasts first rather than at the whole woman, her face, her beingness. They trigger dozens of thoughts, most of which are stuffed (thoughts withheld serve as barriers to the experience of communication). In other words, a person is trying their best to be with your verbal communications underneath which are several thoughts/judgments (good/bad) they don’t/can’t share as they struggle to be with you. Some equate silicone breasts with intelligence, much as they do about blonds.

Women who spend money on breast implants have a life-long problem similar to those who buy expensive jewelry and tattoos, they are socially unconscious; they can't allow themselves to look a hungry or homeless person in the eyes except that at some level they experience the inappropriateness of their priorities in life. Some, in the presence of the needy, find themselves hiding their diamond ring out of fear or embarrassment; such is the guilt of ostentation. For believers the conversation at the Pearly Gate might go something like; St. Peter: "H'mm, let's see, you had the choice between making sure everyone was fed or spending money on a diamond, tattoos, and breast implants. No pass." Expensive adornments? Of course, once everyone is fed, has a home, and an education.

Implants or counseling: The value that comes from processing ones considerations about their body, through therapy/counseling, so that such considerations no longer run them, is by far the better, more relationship-healthy, investment.

A woman who isn't satisfied with the way she is, one who can't choose for things to be the way they are, has not addressed the fundamental cause of her dissatisfaction in life. Big boobs do not replace dissatisfaction-counseling, instead they distract one from the fundamental problem; worse yet, the woman must lie to herself for life, that they look better and that she feels better about herself. Underneath it all, in the quiet of her mind, she knows the truth, that she bought into the media's illusion of beauty.

Women who come upon large breasts through surgery do not carry them naturally or comfortably. They are forever trying to be comfortable and sexy with silicone pouches stuffed under their skin, instead it's experienced by a conscious observer as an act; something is not normal, something is out-integrity. A naturally endowed woman has had thousands of eyes looking at her breasts. Through this lifetime of experiences she has developed a natural way of being and carrying herself. A woman who comes upon large breasts late in life can't begin to amass the natural confidence that comes from carrying them for a lifetime. For life, thereafter, they are equally as self-conscious as they were when smaller-chested, and, they have, and cause, far more thoughts and conversations about their breasts than do other women. Their breasts become conversation topics (often [behind their backs] as objects of uncomplimentary gossip) sticking out like gaudy in-your-face website advertisements; most people unconsciously train themselves to ignore them. They become the first thing another sees and unfortunately judges. Some men and women even look upon such a woman as pathetic; few have the integrity to tell you so to your face, so what you have is a life-time withhold in such relationships. A withhold serves as a barrier to the experience of communication.

Most plastic surgeons don't have the integrity to advise a size smaller than what the woman says she wants. A perfect size is one that doesn't draw negative judgments or unhealthy envy; they look perfectly proportional and not false. Few will tell you that you virtually give up the option of sleeping on your stomach. Also, during sex, when on top the firmer-harder than normal breasts press unnaturally into a man's chest; the experience is distractingly noticeable each and every time.

Quite often men in a relationship with a woman with implants find themselves lying, continually reassuring the woman that she looks sexy. It's one of those lies that are hard to admit to no matter how hard the woman presses for the truth. The truth is she knows they don't look normal, yet she is absolutely driven to eventually ask, "What do you think?" or "Do you like them?" This is a setup. The question sets him up to lie for which there are undesirable consequences. If a man told the truth it might devastate the woman. I.e. "Here's the truth. I know that when you look in the mirror they look nice to you but from my perspective they simply are not proportionate with your body. They make you look unnatural, that, and they don't feel like real breasts. The bulge is off-putting. It's impossible to hug you without my mind being temporarily distracted by the hard lumps. If I could wave a magic wand I would restore you. I realize now that it's you I love."

Ironically, many women are unconsciously in favor of you getting implants because it removes you from the competition, socially and professionally. Implants automatically relegate you to a category of women, you become one of those women who . . .

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Ethan
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Re: Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

Postby Ethan » Sun Oct 16, 2011 8:12 pm

I just think that breast implants are of no greater evil to the self esteems of women at large than anything else. From the time we are little girls we are given Barbies with impossible to achieve in real life dimensions. We are bombarded with images from magazines, television, internet, movies, billboards of women so beautiful even THEY themselves can't look as good as they are portrayed and men buy those images hook line and sinker and will often consider whoever they are with 'less than' because of them.

Breasts are just one facet. If anything is making a difference in how women perceive themselves in a negative way I would blame Photoshop more than breast implants

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Re: Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

Postby Gabby » Sun Oct 16, 2011 10:59 pm

Hi Ethan,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

Gabby

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Re: Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

Postby Janice » Mon Nov 21, 2011 10:43 pm

In today’s generation, the fact of the matter is that appearance matters. The way that a person dresses and the way that they look have a huge bearing on how others perceive them. Although this may seem unfair, this is the truth.

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Re: Breast implants: Some hard to be with tips

Postby Gabby » Mon Nov 21, 2011 11:44 pm

Hi Janice,

Thanks for your points of view.

Gabby


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