How do I handle my lover's ashes request?
Posted: Mon Apr 11, 2005 11:03 am
I killed my companion by witholdong my love from him and carrying on a two year affair that I knew would go nowhere. Where do I go from here?
I feel so horrible that I think I should die in order to balance the scales. What do I do to make up for this horrible thing I did that contributed to Patrick's death? His sister-in-law gave me his ashes and told me to call them when I was ready to scatter them. I am experiencing so much remorse and grief over his death. I cannot get into any real communication with them regarding when to do it. All communication between us has shut down and I believe I know why. But I don't know how to complete this relationship and come to terms with his family. It is very serious and I don't know what to do. Patrick gave me very clear instructions on what to do with his ashes and where to take them and even told me he didn't want his brothers there. But my intuiton tells me that they don't want me there and I do not know how to broach the subject so that we can all come to peace with each other and lay Patrick to rest as he wanted.
redbrunette
I feel so horrible that I think I should die in order to balance the scales. What do I do to make up for this horrible thing I did that contributed to Patrick's death? His sister-in-law gave me his ashes and told me to call them when I was ready to scatter them. I am experiencing so much remorse and grief over his death. I cannot get into any real communication with them regarding when to do it. All communication between us has shut down and I believe I know why. But I don't know how to complete this relationship and come to terms with his family. It is very serious and I don't know what to do. Patrick gave me very clear instructions on what to do with his ashes and where to take them and even told me he didn't want his brothers there. But my intuiton tells me that they don't want me there and I do not know how to broach the subject so that we can all come to peace with each other and lay Patrick to rest as he wanted.
redbrunette