Dear Gabby

Lower Puna has a wonerful charter school. Ive heard this over and over, but recently started questioning that wonderful school's judgement. I dont have children of my own but my problem is, that there are a couple people working there that I know from just living in the same community. Im not sure...

Hi Gabby,
I got married for the 2nd time 2 1/2 years ago. I am a 53 year old woman. I married a 46 year old man. I knew he did not drink alcohol since he was a heavy drinker until around 10 years before our marriage and gave it up. He also gave up coffee, smoking cigarettes and dope, and TV since...

Dear Gabby
I am not the type of person who talks about how they feel. people who knows me know I don't talk too much, and am happy with that. but now, I am so tired and I wanna say everything I feel. I have a looot of friends but no one can feel my pain, besides, I don't want to see the pity in...

I wish to ask your thoughts on the best way to create an agreement without it becoming an imitation of agreement.

Dear Gabby : I’m married for 25 years and I think have a quite good marriage. Me and my husband are good friends, do many things together and share similar lifestyle. My husband was my first and only sexual partner. I was brought up in a family with strict rules that taught me that the only way to...

Esabelly asked this question on another topic. I've moved it here.

Dear Gabby:

What is a marriage that is done only for necessity? My ex husband remarried last december, and he said it was a marriage out of necessity. He said his marriage is okay, and will not talk about it. What does that mean?...

Dear gabby,

Sunday my girlfriend that ive been going out with for nearly 2 years said she wants a break. She said she has lost the lust and passion for me as a lover and wants to be best friends again. For a little background ive known her for about 4 years and I liked her the moment i met her. We...

Hello - If your family shuns you after estrangement because 'too many upsets and problems' in our lives, should we 'on occasion' attend an event where we are expected to be 'part of the crowd'...'say nothing' and 'never follow-up on any relationship' -- ie, just be there to make sure there 'are a...

I relize that my parents are divorsed but they always fight over me its hard i want to stay with my dad but i love my mom and I want to stay with her too how do I create a scedule to go to both parents and have a lovely time with both of them what should I do ? :?:

Dear Gabby,
I have been ask to served as a hostess at my husband first cousin wedding reception. I told her yes I would not really thinking about the job that a hostess does. Now, the cousin has invited the family to the wedding/reception to sit down for family dinner and my husband is furious...

dear gabby,

recently things have been rocky with my girlfriend i've been with for almost 2 years now. she has been distant, and i can tell she gets kinda annoyed when i try to make her laugh. also we have not been intimate very much, maybe a couple times a month, and when we do i basically have to...

Hi dg2383,

Thank you for the nice acknowledgment.

Given that you appreciate candor I’ll jump right in with a few observations.

Your post contains several lies. This of itself is normal and natural; the problem is that you couldn’t see them when you wrote them nor could you see them when you re...

My brother married this 'woman' (for a lack of better words) back in '03. The family shunned her immediately as she is this uneducated, trailer dwelling, unfit mother (she had lost custody of her 3 children). So my brother marries her, moves her out of the trailer she was living in which was her...

I have been through therapy for the abuse I have suffered as a child from my parents and bad relationships. My first fiancee tried to kill me, my parents displayed uncontrolled fits of rage (which I am mindful in myself) including physical and verbal abuse, and now my brother knows he can do the...

Dear Gabby,

I've been dating my boyfriend for six months now, and about two months ago, I told him I loved him. He couldn't reply back and I was fine with it because I don't want him to tell me he loves me unless he truly means it and feels that way. But now that we're at six months of dating and...

When I found myself pregnant with my beautiful daughter, who is now about to turn 18, I resolved that I would take full responsibility for my stuff and that the buck stopped with me. Little did I know that after the difficult birth of my son 2.5 years later that I would experience 2.5 years of...

dear gabby,
im not quit sure how to say this but im in a realationship with another women we been together for almost 4 years and im very emotionally abusive to her i yell at her everyday all day and i dont know how to stop and if i dont get help soon she is going to leave me she is my soul mate...

A long time ago, I decided to adopt my daughter. I spent a year visiting her in the hospital, training to take care of her. It was a great day when I was approved by the hospital to take her home. When the social worker came over to my house to do a home study she said she had a bit of bad news....

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Dear Gabby,

I've been reading through your advice and found your perspective enlightning. I can't say I always agree with your advice, but it definetely puts another spin on communication.

I have been 'married' for almost 7 years with a man from Europe. We have...

Dear Gabby,

What I am realizing now is that my daughter and I have had a reversed relationship. My biggest fear was losing her to a child abductor. I did everything I could to protect her from such a horrible event. I didn't let her out of my sight. If she got out of my sight for more than a...

Dear Gabby,

Serious trouble on the in-law front. My husband and I have been married for 5 years, we have two children. My husband is one of 6 children. I am an only child. Things started getting weird right after we got married. It seemed like his family loved me and I loved them before. One of...

Dear Gabby,
I first have to say I feel really really really stupid for asking some person i dont even know for advice on the internet. Secondly, that fact is why I have never asked internet advice colomnists for advice. I am a 15 years old. I hate guys. I dont trust them or like most of them even....

Now let me start this off by saying that I fully understand that my sister (lets call her *Joan*) is her own person and this is her own life. Also I do not want to offend anyone on this board with my views or morals on this situation. I am simply here for another perspective.
I am 21, we have a...

When i first met my husband he took me to meet his brother and his girlfriend. Prior to us going he said the girlfriend told him she had to approve of me before he could get serious (she was supposedly joking) well we got there and the two men went out to a pub leaving me with her alone, she was as...

Hi slightly anonymous,

Thanks for writing. What follows will be extremely difficult to read and even more so to get, to own, to be with without upset. Yet, I’m bound to tell you the truth because you had the intelligence and the courage to reach out.

Let’s begin with, “She lacks communication...

Let me say that I will use a lot of I believe statements to describe my opinion on relationships in general. So please forgive me if you get bored reading all the I believe s in this text.

I am at the divorce process now, and trying to find why I did and what I did. Although I am curious about why...

Dear Gabby,

My mother and I have been very close. However, while we still talk on the phone every day, seeing her, especially without my niece and/or nephew in her care has become a rarity. In addition, she seldom watches my daughter because on the rare occasions that I call her, she has already...

My husband, mother and I made a huge mistake.... we bought a house together. I am 8 months pregnant. We moved into our house just a week and a half ago. In less than a week the two people I love most have discovered sides of one another that neither likes. During a heated conversation that asked...

Dear Gabby,
I'm a 15 year old female! My mom recently allowed me to date, my first relationship didn't work.It's been about 2 or 3 months since I've been in a relationship.It's this boy that I really like, and I KNOW he's a GREAT person.I'm new at this so I don't know how to tell my mom about...

This post was accidentally deleted and since been restored. It was originally posted by JimmyAfflicted.

My best friend is bulimic, but says that he's perfectly fine. He vomits after every meal he eats, and blames it on acid reflux. I've told him that I'm worried about him and that he needs to go...

This topic was posted by Betrayed Wife. It was moved here from the 50 original letters by Gabby

DEAR ABBY
I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS AND MARRIED FOR 4 YRS.

SINCE THE MARRIAGE OCCURED I HAVE REASON TO SUSPECT THAT THIS IS A BISEXUAL MILITARY MAN. HE HATES ALL WOMEN. HE ALSO ABUSES...

This post was accidentally deleted and now restored. The letter was posted by J1966.

In the past I've always noticed that my husband talks to me like I'm young, but I've also wondered if it's just my own insecurity, being younger by 8 years.

Lately, though, he seems just plain miserable, always...

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DEAR TO WHOM MAY CONCERN

My name is Brandi Sims , I'm currently married to a convicted felon of multiple charges . I'm been threatened with a 25' pistol and bluntly spoken to, That before I let you leave me I'll...

I killed my companion by witholdong my love from him and carrying on a two year affair that I knew would go nowhere. Where do I go from here?

I feel so horrible that I think I should die in order to balance the scales. What do I do to make up for this horrible thing I did that contributed to...

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Gabby,I'm in a 7 year marriage and a battle with my in-laws. My sister in-law is almost 9 years older then my husband and I, she practically raised him in there single parent home when mom used to be working two jobs.

She has no...

hi, it is my first time in this forum and i would really like you to help out. tell me what you think. i am 30 yrs old, have my own life, house nad family but i still suffer because of my emotionally and verbally abusive mum. she hurts us so much and i am very concerned for my dad, brother and...

DEAR GABBY MY NAME IS MARY MY BROTHER MARRIED A BASKET CASE FOR HIS WIFE AND NOW SHE'S MY SISTER IN LAW HER NAME IS CINDY SHE IS A RUDE AND SELFISH SISTER IN LAW THAT I INHERITED ON JUNE 13, 2004 I JUST WANTED TO SEE MY LITTLE NEPHEW BILLY JR AND SHE GOT REAL SARCASTIC WITH ME WHERE SHE SAID YOU...

His four and my two became the BRADY bunch 7 years ago. Now they are all grown up and on their own.

It all started about 6 years ago, no drive all of a sudden. Not sure what happened, nor the reason why. I am asking myself the same questions every day. It's been that long without his tender...

Dear Gabby,
I 'm happy with my husband. But the only problem I have is that my husband could never help me financially because he owed a lot of debt. he told me that I have to get a job to support my self.

Making Others Do Wrong Things:

No one makes another do bad things (hurt someone, steal, lie, cheat). Everyone has free will.

A person can try and seduce someone into doing bad and evil things but it is up to
the person being 'seduced' to resist. If they give into temptation, they are to blame....

Hi everyone. i woke up this morning to something thats really hurt me. i am pregnant and my boyfriend promised me he wouldnt look at porn again he even swore on the babies life.
i found out he had been looking at porn by going to his history. i was looking for something to do with sims2 and i found...