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by Gabby
Tue Apr 19, 2005 10:13 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #47 Boyfriend’s online sex search presents a dilemma
Replies: 0
Views: 19212

#47 Boyfriend’s online sex search presents a dilemma

Dear Prudence (Margo Howard): I am a 25-year-old African-American woman. I have been dating a wonderful guy (let’s call him "James") for the last two years. I say wonderful because he is by far the best boyfriend ever. We met in school and been inseparable ever since. I love him and know he loves me...
by Gabby
Tue Apr 12, 2005 11:04 am
Forum: Ask Gabby your own question
Topic: Violence in relationship
Replies: 0
Views: 29377

Violence in relationship

This post was accidentally deleted and now restored. It was submitted by Brandi. DEAR TO WHOM MAY CONCERN My name is Brandi Sims , I'm currently married to a convicted felon of multiple charges . I'm been threatened with a 25' pistol and bluntly spoken to, "That before I let you leave me I'll shoot...
by Gabby
Tue Apr 12, 2005 10:49 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #44 Should I ask for hand in marriage?
Replies: 4
Views: 35850

Hi New User: I got your thoughts. Thank you for participating in this conversation. I know that at some level you know that there is a way to present an opposing point of view in a way that feels good to all concerned. Your knee-jerk, “Come on. Are you for real?” doesn’t feel good. That you didn't c...
by Gabby
Tue Apr 12, 2005 10:25 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #44 Should I ask for hand in marriage?
Replies: 4
Views: 35850

Hi Been there: "Parents" yes, as you say, but, "ask her father," is to me sexist (conscious or not) and indicative of things to come. If, on the other hand, she said, "What do you mean, Ask my father? You mean ask my parents, yes?" And he replies, "Oh, yes, absolutely," communicating also, thanks fo...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 11:49 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #1 Estranged husband spreading lies
Replies: 6
Views: 45254

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by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 11:40 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #1 Estranged husband spreading lies
Replies: 6
Views: 45254

Hi Phoenicia: There's just too much in your post to address. One thing is certain, you are definitely right about all that you wish to be right about. I do have a problem with your signature, "sincerely," that I don't get. You don't mention what it is specifically in my reply that upset you; that wo...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 11:31 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #1 Estranged husband spreading lies
Replies: 6
Views: 45254

Hi David: Thanks for the reply. There is a way to disagree with another without invalidating them ("dream world"). What would have felt good to read was, "I haven't learned how to have a perfect relationship so I hold the belief that it's not possible." With that no one could argue. Notice that ther...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 11:07 am
Forum: Ask Gabby your own question
Topic: How do I handle my lover's ashes request?
Replies: 1
Views: 33275

Hi Redbrunette: I get your upset and your confusion. I do not get that you killed Patrick. That statement is a dramatization. What I do get is that you now feel guilty for communicating abusively with him. However, this is not the source of your grief. There’s more that you need to be acknowledged f...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:53 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi Scared: For my reply to be of value you will have to be willing to look at this situation from the point of view, no matter how ludicrous it may seem, that you are intending this to happen, for an as yet unknown reason. You also have to acknowledge that you alone attracted and married a woman wit...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:42 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi sacamuelas: Thank you for explaining that English is your second language. In this new light your post and reply are very good. Goodness knows I could not do as well with my high school Spanish or college German. :D There is nothing left for me to say. It's clear from your reply that I failed to ...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:37 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi sacamuelas: We’ve got several things going here. First: It’s a bit of a challenge to be with your post because of the unconscious disrespect. It’s not a letter written by someone intent on bringing about resolution. It reveals that you are attached to the drama. Things haven’t gotten bad enough f...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:31 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi Confused and Hurt: The chances of communication taking place between us (you and me) are virtually nil. Even after reading this entire thread you write: "I am debating on contacting him and telling him to stay away from me and my family." No way could it turn out mutually satisfying, not from you...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 10:13 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi jlperkins: I believe most divorced women who have been in an abusive relationship (what you are co-creating with him is abusive) would advise you to dump him. However, that solution (it doesn't matter whether it's "fair" or not) doesn’t address the source of the problem. Specifically, what is it ...
by Gabby
Mon Apr 11, 2005 9:49 am
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #45 My sister won't talk with us
Replies: 11
Views: 66656

Hi Courage, a.k.a. Lisa: How nice that you were able to read my reply to your sister. There's so much in your post I simply can't reply appropriately. Suffice it to say, it doesn't feel good. It is in fact abusive. It's argumentative. It's blaming. For example: "I had begged time and time again for ...
by Gabby
Sun Apr 10, 2005 11:13 pm
Forum: Read/comment on the 50 Original Dear Gabby Letters
Topic: #19 Should I confront wife's adultery partner?
Replies: 22
Views: 100699

Hi Rome Power: You are welcome. I mean that it will get worse before it gets better for you. How do I know? Because I’ve been there. As long as you have thoughts of retribution and spite, and of wanting to hurt someone for the mess you created, you haven’t learned what this is all about. Your questi...