Dear Gabby

Are you training your daughter to attract an abusive controlling partner? Note : Reading this through to the end (clicking on each hyperlink) is comparable to a weekend-long Leadership-Relationship Communication-Skills Workshop . It's commonly thought that a woman seeks a man like her father. In tr...

A swift kick in the ass restores communication Caesar Milan, the Dog Whisperer, when walking a dog that is in their "aggressive zone"—dominant, leash-tugging, walking-ahead—will deliver a swift wake-up kick (foot bump) to the dog’s rear end. The dog is so preoccupied (zoned-out) with his/her undesi...

How to tell if your child has a teacher or an education major; an education major is someone in the process of becoming a teacher. Someone in the process of becoming a teacher has yet to demonstrate an ability to consistently— —have all homework turned in neatly and on time. A teacher can be truste...

Hi Bob,

You're most welcome.

Best wishes,

Gabby

Hi Bob, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. There's too much for me to address. The content comes from a mind addicted to arguing, to finding fault, to making another wrong. Responsibility : It would work if, in the future, you intend me to write what I write. That is to say, there is a way to disa...

Hi Bob, You're welcome. Re: "So one can never be certain at the time an agreement is created whether it is an agreement or an imitation of one, if I get you properly." Yours is a rhetorical question. If you're referring to an actual incident then you should relate the incident. In which case you'd w...

Hi Bob, Re: "I wish to ask your thoughts on the best way to create an agreement . . ." My thoughts are not what works. And, I'm unaware of a "best way." I seem to do it differently, using different words each time. That's because agreements are about intention. Often people discover that they had n...

If you and your partner are thinking about adopting a child this 83-yr-old orphan recommends that you allow the following considerations to enter your minds. Not to worry, any BS can easily be composted. Premise : If you are thinking about adopting and can't or won't read this entire tip (it ain't e...

#136 Mother-controlling daughter / Who's controlling who? DEAR ABBY: I'm in my late 20s, single and have no children. I have lived on my own since I was 18. I own my home, my car and have no credit card debt, but my mother refuses to acknowledge me as an adult. When I do simple chores or cook meals...

Definitions: PTS and PTSD P ost T raumatic S tress, (PTS) —stress that sometimes appears after a stressful incident. PTS sometimes evolves into a disorder when a veteran is not in-communication with anyone ; when the vet, and everyone with whom they interact (doctors, therapists, clergy, friends, a...

Here's an acknowledgment that makes a positive * difference: [/b] Instead of, "Thank you for your service" ask, "For what about your military service have you not been acknowledged?" or, more informally, "Is there anything ( about your military service ) you haven't been acknowledged for?" You can ...

You're welcome. Thanks BlueLotus.

Kerry

Hi Lostgirl, It doesn't appear that you have your husband's permission to be dating your boyfriend, therefore, you are abusing your husband; premeditated abuse generates its own set of consequences, first affecting one's aliveness, one's happiness, and eventually one's health —ultimately, the happin...

Note to readers : Lostgirl began The Clearing Process and posted the following before she completed it. Hi Lostgirl, thanks for reaching out. I see now that I need to include the instruction, "Please don't post relationship questions until you have completed your clearings." Mo betta you wait until...

#134 Woman says pot use ruining friend / Did my mediocre life drive friend to go unconscious? DEAR ABBY: Legal marijuana is making my best friend stupid, boring and insipid. "Susan" and I are in our 50s and have been best friends off and on since childhood. A decade ago, we started taking better ca...