Dear Gabby

Premise : Every truth and every lie has an effect, even unconscious lies. All communications (verbal, non-verbal, physical and psychic) have an effect on you and all others; a lie believed to be true does not make it true. For example : If you are divorced and your wedding vow included, ". . . till...

The media is introducing us to considerations about our D.N.A and what we bring health-wise to any intimate relationship. We are being introduced to possibilities—such as requesting D.N.A. information upfront as a conversation topic during the dating-invitation-conversation; it appears that we will ...

At first glance the title of this tip can be a bit confusing. It alludes to the practice of mindful meditation, 1 however, it pertains to observing the thoughts you are thinking while performing sex. 2 Specifically, it's about doing what you call sex minus thinking thoughts . Thoughts serve as barr...

Babies are integrity meters: Whenever your baby cries enough that it begins to frustrate or worry you, to cause you upset, it's the baby's way of letting you know that something's wrong, between you and your baby and between your partner and the baby and between you and your partner— you've lapsed ...

Sex tips: All dissatisfactions with sex between couples reveal that both partners are withholding an equal number of significant thoughts from the other. There are no exceptions to this communication phenomenon. These withholds are being communicated non-verbally, they cause all miscommunications, b...

Premises : One is either willing or not willing to look at, to talk about, cancer from the point of view of cause. To disappear any problem one must first intend it—one must choose, to not only have it, but to have intended it (albeit, unconsciously). * A problem persists because it's being talked ...

How does one know if they are in love, if it's love? The asker of such a question reveals a misunderstanding about communication, about love; it also reveals that the asker is incomplete in his/her relationship with both parents. The word "in" implies that love is a permanent 24/7 condition. The que...

Three possible causes for a baby who appears to be drugged, who looks groggy, one who doesn't look happy and energetic, one who cries a lot. — During pregnancy the mother didn't drink enough water * to flush out the toxins throughout each day. — Instead of doing the recommended readings and exercise...

If you presently have a belief that it's OK to declare bankruptcy if things go south, does such a belief cause financial failure? Assuming of course, you agree that it's abusive to break agreements with fellow merchants, and that there should be undesirable consequences for lying, for breaking one'...

An "A-Frame Hug" is one in which both huggers non-verbally (often it's an unconscious psychically communicated agreement) agree to lean towards and hug only the top half of each other. Most always, A-Frame Hugs are respectfully appropriate, however, between family members it's usually because both a...

Approximately 42% percent of the nation's parolees return to prison, in part, * because upon parole they resume relating with parents, relatives, and friends whose leadership-communications skills did not inspire integrity throughout childhood. In other words, how you, as a parent, relative, or frie...

We forget how all-seeing/knowing we were when young. We could see and hear the inconsistencies, the mind-numbing hypocrisies, between all adults. * Parents lie, deceive and abuse each other yet espouse niceness and truth-telling. "Do as I say . . ." Few parents share life's perpetrations (first lie,...

All dissatisfactions with sex are a consequence of both partners withholding the same number of thoughts (yes, both and same ) from the other—fear, uncomfortableness, and embarrassment are the most common reasons. Sex without conscious synchronous breathing is rudimentary high school sex; it's as f...

What's going on in our body and mind while we are raising our voice in anger, when we are lying or deceiving, or when we are being abusive to someone? Has a lie, a deceit, or a blaming abusive communication that you have yet to acknowledge (to yourself or another), been affecting your health, your ...

There are teachers and there are educators. All educators (those with teaching degrees) with one or more failing students have become stuck doing their imitation of communication ; they are somewhere en-route to becoming a teacher. None have discovered (at the level of knowingness) the correlation b...