Thinking of Adopting? . . . an orphan's tips about adopting

 

Same-sex adopters . . . the principles of yin-yang.

Following are considerations, thoughts to consider when deciding to adopt a child.

 

• One of the final barriers to relationship-communication mastery is confronting one ego, one's arrogance. If you are a same-sex couple and you're thinking of adopting a child this could be the most challenging tip to read. It's about acknowledging the genius, the wisdom, the design, the very is-ness of the yin-yang of things, specifically the masculine and feminine vibrational influences as pertains to a child's growth. Premise: For a child to be whole and complete, well grounded, open and honest, reliable and responsible, there are certain communications a child needs to hear from both sexes at specific times throughout childhood. Children who don't have these conversations are said to be incomplete; they are easily identified because they withhold thoughts from their loved ones, for fear of . . .

• Equal time sitting on a mother's and a father's lap is essential to raising a well-adjusted child. The experience of a child taking a walk with a female vs. walking with a male is different and awesomely more significant than grown adults can remember. When a child watches their father shave it's an experience; it creates a set of vibrations that can't be replicated. The memory of a daughter shopping with her father is a memorable experience; the pride, the joy, is so different than when shopping with one's mother. The very energy, the space of being, is different with adult males and females.

• As a same-sex couple your collective mind protects its point of view; it even protects the belief that, [We can do it. We can raise a child without the daily vibrations of the opposite sex. We'll see to it the child interacts with the opposite sex frequently. etc.]  What your mind is ignoring is the wisdom of the universe, the yin-yang of things and relationships. Read: More Effective Communicators—men or women? Virtually no couples during their wedding ceremony could imagine that they would drive their spouse into another's arms—yet 50% of all couples experience fidelity problems—neither can they see their ignorance and arrogance.
  

• If you find yourself trash-talking this web-page/site, ripping apart each consideration, disallowing any truth, you'll will be modeling this critical unsupportable behavior for your adopted child.
  

• Heterosexual couples magnetically attract perfect mates, especially couples that appear to be toxic for each other, mates that automatically mirror for each that which needs to be acknowledged so as to experience enlightenment. Their children inherit these specific vibrations, the combined DNA of both birth parents. If you are a same-sex couple you are arrogantly (perhaps even self-righteously) ignoring the purpose and wisdom of the opposite sex and the role it plays in raising a well-adjusted child. This ignoring (this covert make-wrong/denial) will get communicated non-verbally to your adoptee.
  
  For example: A mother is granted custody. She truly believes she doesn't talk trash about her ex yet the child, when someone asks tells them, "My dad left us." The mother has yet to verbally acknowledged to the child her responsibility, what she did to destroy the marriage, her very first communication that caused the divorce. Her non-verbal blaming gets communicated to the child. Such a child ends up not understanding how his mother, using her leadership-communication skills, set it up to be abused; the child inherits the mother's addiction to covert blaming.

• When one parent supports the other in abusive yelling (at each other or to the child) the child is impacted for life. All abuse must be acknowledged verbally, else the enabler becomes cause for all successive abuses. I.e. "I get that I was abusive to you earlier today."

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