Ensuring your daughter has sex behind your back


Actually, there's nothing you have to do. Most parents are already doing what it takes to train their teenage daughter to be deceitful, to hide thoughts such as, “I’m thinking of doing drugs or having sex.” This is especially true of parents who arrogantly believe they are in communication with their teenager.


Few parents know how to create a safe space for the truth to be told spontaneously. Most fathers have shut down communication with their daughter to the point where they've stopped hugging each other, indicative of dozens of withholds between them; this usually drives a daughter into the arms of a disrespectful teenage boy, one equally desperate for affection. "Disrespectful" in that the boy is counting on a father's daughter being willing to deceive her parents by having sex behind their backs.


The vast majority of parents are still reaping the karma of having deceived their parents, and, of supporting their high school dates in deceiving their parents, by sneaking off to have sex.  Most fathers, when they were a teenager, thought nothing of conning their date into having sex. Most teen girls thought nothing of conning a boy into begging for sex and to deceiving his parents so as to have sex behind the backs of both sets of parents. It didn’t even occur to either that they were supporting each other in deceiving their parents thereby sowing the seeds for infidelities (deceits) later during marriage.


Teenage boys intuitively know to look for a girl who is lonely and needy, one who is not in communication with her parents. There is a Clearing Process that supports one in cleaning up childhood perpetrations thereby precluding the necessity of creating what it was like for the deceived parent; the process virtually disappears undesirable karma.


What passes for communication between most parents and teens is but an imitation of communication. (read Sarah and Bristol Palin's Potential Rumor). This imitation of communication, this way of relating between parents and children, is the result of generations of in-breeding within university Speech-Communication departments. Speech-Communication professors honestly believe they are in communication with their students yet more and more college freshmen require remedial courses because their high school teachers (education majors) were not taught how to communicate subject matter. I say “in-breeding” because a person committed to communicating openly, honestly, and spontaneously (zero withholds) cannot survive for long within the university environment. Communication cannot be taught through to a skill level by a teacher who cannot be trusted to tell the truth or to honor all agreements, or one who hides certain thoughts from his/her spouse, parents, peers, and superordinates.


Bottom line: Parents are programmed to use the prevailing communication model taught in schools; it’s referred to as the adversarial communication model. It’s the same leadership communication model that teachers use to train parents to send their child to school without ensuring the homework is done neatly. It's the same thwarting communication model parents/citizens use to cause teachers to have to pathetically beg for salaries one half those of dockworkers. Here are four free communication processes that can create (or restore) the experience of integrity within a family. It’s not too late.

Last edited (12/9/20)

 

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