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#106 Abuse survivor afraid to be honest / Time to begin therapy
#105 Children upset by parents' fighting / Show parents your letter and the replies
#104
She wants to be nice without giving number / honest or polite?
#103
Man fine being distant from mother / Curriculum for getting back in?
#102
Visit to grandparents' bores teenagers / Time to develop new communication skills
#101
Feud causing strain at school where mom and son work / How do I mend relationship with son?
#100
Friend won’t take sides in couple’s fights / Am I enabling them in abusing each other?
#99
Should I mend relationship with my sister? / How much coaching to heal my addiction to blaming?
#98
Secret about girlfriend's incest / The effects of my promise?
#97
Dating woman great, except for her immature children / Am I that immature?
#96
Mom-in-law fed up with accusations of playing favorites / Am I causing this disrespect?
#95
Guilty about not loving stepchildren / Another way to communicate that produces love?
#94
Woman confused by desires to cheat / Is my deceit causing problem to persist?
#93
Married woman still thinking about old boyfriend / Am I training my children to deceive?
#92
Fiancé's cheating may be a one-time thing / Did I intend his cheating?
#91
Guilt about not loving my stepdaughters / Imitation of communication not producing love
#90
Grandpa’s expressions of affection—appropriate? / Husband & mother-in-law communication problem
#89
Pastor’s wife with a past could cause havoc / Hater hating herself for lying and blaming
#88
Single women wonder if they’ll find love / Genius working on self—sorting out priorities
#87
Abusive behavior passes from father to son / Am I causing my husband to abuse my son?
#86
Fed up with her ‘caring’ husband’s insensitive remarks / How did I cause this behavior?
#85
My son is ignoring me / How do I get into communication with my son?
#84
Offended wife wants me to give up golf buddy / Am I forcing my wife to issue me an ultimatum?
#83
What’s wrong with being serious? / Is my position invalidating my friends?
#82
Should I tell stepfather that mom's cheating with dad?/ Give mom a chance to tell dad first?
#81
Do I have to be nice to my boyfriend's family? / Am I enabling a victim?
#79
Wife walked out on him but won't explain / Did I actually drive her out of my life?
#78
Faithful husband pays for wife's distrust / Have I been a sneaky unconscious enabler?

 

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Listed in order of most popular as (as of 2/4/08)

Top 10

#11 Teen feels pressure to lose virginity / Should I keep conning my boyfriend into begging for sex?
#69
I'm afraid to say I love you to my boyfriend / Should I start from love or from testing?
#73
Dad fears lazy girlfriend will be lazy wife / Son dramatizing disrespect of dad
#19
18-year-old girl asks, what am I doing wrong? / How can I inspire spontaneity and truthfulness in men?
#59
Daughter unsure how to handle estranged mother / Daughter programmed to train son to be abusive
#42
Husband’s salon tan—a sign he’s cheating on wife / Signs you're causing your partner to cheat
#80
Daughter wants to sever ties with mother-in-law / How do I repair the damage I’ve done?
#45
Anonymous letter my husband is having an affair / Am I unconsciously intending this drama?
#25
Wedding 'hostess' worked too hard, bails / Hostess sets up bride to complete a previous upset

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Top 11-20

#35 Thoughts about crying after sex / Am I destroying my new relationship?
#34
Should I marry man whose stepfather is a pedophile / Intend now to master communication or back off?
#18
What is it about women who steal husbands? / Cheating reveals unacknowledged intention of the "victim"
#55
Husband refuses to kick drug habit / I'm addicted to making my husband wrong
#17
I'm not happy with my nice husband / I think my husband is the source of my dissatisfactions
#20
Wife's hubby admits his affair—with her mom / I set it up for my mother and husband to deceive me">
#40
Can’t get husband to appreciate me / My communication-leadership skills don’t inspire appreciation
#26
His fiancée's chronic tardiness concerns him / She is mirroring his ignorance and out-integrity
#30
Boyfriend abusing our new baby daughter / Mother caught in lies, blaming, and addiction to abuse
#68
Should I warn my ex's new girlfriend? / Would ratting on my ex-boyfriend be an act of spite?
#3
Boyfriend dragging feet on long road to alter/ Girlfriend blaming boyfriend
#49
Girl wants friend to stop smoking pot / Pot not source of problem
#15
Daughter-in-law is abusive to my son / Did I train my son to abuse and be abused?
#67
Breast obsessed boyfriend wants me to get implants / Should I spend money on implants or therapy?
#28
How to get over anger of niece stealing my husband? / Ex-wife stuck lying about unconscious intentions
#10
Mom doesn't support my mixed racial marriage / Should I continue to make my mother wrong?

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Top 21-30

#38 Wife is attracted to wrong husband / What will it cost me to tell the truth?
#7
Should I tell boyfriend my history of abuse? / Unaware of cause of past abuse
#37
Invite friend whose partner abuses you to your wedding / Time for a sit-down
#41
Son needs help to kick depression / Father needs father-coaching
#23
Terrible kisser about to be dumped / Two doing their imitation of communication
#2
She should stay clear of abusive ex / I'm already abusing new friend
#43
Student burns candle at both ends risks a burnout / Son mirroring father’s leadership communication skills
#8
Expression of love drove her away / She was already away
#31
Daughter refuses to hold off on marriage to abusive fiancé / Daughter's desperate communication to her mother
#39
Defusing explosive sisters / Am I unconsciously intending the abuse I experience with my sisters?

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31-74

#1 Should I go to Grandma's funeral? / Should I keep rewarding and empowering abusive family?
#4
Grandparents won't let me meet dad / 14-year-old needs counseling
#5
Teen who had molested a child is now being abused / Teen mirroring adults
#6
In Mom's eye, girl can't do anything right / Yelling is abusive
#9
Should I take grandson from my daughter? / Should I train my grandson to be like my daughter?
#12
Friend is stealing my dates / What's at the root of me sabotaging myself?
#13
Should we keep sending grandchild money? / Should I keep setting it up for grandchild to fail in life?
#53
How can I help a friend in an abusive relationship? / Am I addicted to enabling, abuse, and drama?
#14
How do I handle naysayers? / Is what they say true?
#16
How do people know if their therapist is helping them? / Is it me or my therapist?
#21
Supervisor’s tirade gets out of control / How do I stop enabling abuse?
#22
She's stuck with an unwelcome wedding guest / Abuse addict marrying into an equally abusive family
#24
Co-worker conducting second job on company time / Employees mirroring CEO's out-integrity
#27
How do I support boyfriend with his grammar? / Unconscious request for help with problem of fear
#29
Granddaughter's a behavior problem / Grandma not in communication with her child or grandchild
#32
Counseling a waste of money / Communication-Skills Coaching—an unconnable alternative
#33
Sleepover modesty question / Not in communication with friends
#36
Unfaithful past best kept out of present / Should I wake up my fellow Christian parishners?
#44
Drama queen is wearing out welcome—and friend's ears / Friend setting up friend to fail
#46
How do I mend fence with my mother? Stay away from mom until she gets therapy.
#47
How do I relate with ex-son-in-law? / Mother unconsciously enabling friction
#48
What to do about husband's manners? / Wife masterminding divorce needs therapy
#50
Dating sister’s ex husband causing upsets in family / Did I unconsciously intend sister’s divorce?
#51
Teen worried about accent at Outward Bound / Accent a consideration, not source of problem
#52
Need help finding estranged brother / Maybe I'm not ready to find my brother
#54
Will an about-to-be-divorced cheater be faithful to me? / Is this cheating addict mirroring me?
#56
Should I apologize to my ex? / Apologize? No! — Acknowledge? Yes.
#57
I'm afraid to ask a white girl out / No space for her to choose
#58
Fighting partner asks, can relationship be fixed? / How do I stop fighting and blaming?
#60
True Friends stick together despite change / “Friends” yes, addiction empowering enablers, no.
#61
Tell teen's parents about their daughter's hanky-panky / Should I betray my gossiping daughter's trust?
#62
Should I tell boyfriend about kiss? / Looking for someone sharp enough to catch me
#63
Don't reward your partner's honesty with an insulting overreaction / Sickness appropriate reaction
#64
Mother confused after daughter refuses contact / Daughter taking sides reveals she has become an enabler
#65
My wife hits me when we argue / Husband addicted to abuse and blaming
#66
First dating experience hard to handle when it ends abruptly / What did I do to drive him away?
#69
I'm afraid to say I love you to my boyfriend / Should I start from love or from testing?
#70
Should I let son play with mischief-maker? / Should I teach mischief-maker how to deceive and gossip?
#71
Problem with boyfriend's children / Now's not the time to be getting engaged
#72
Why do children dump their children on grandparents? / Am I raising my grandchildren to be irresponsible and abusive?
#73
Dad fears lazy girlfriend will be lazy wife / Son dramatizing disrespect of dad
#74
Daughter’s boyfriend tests boundaries / Concerned parent trained daughter to create abuse
#75
Rejection common for HIV-positive singles / Rejection impossible when committed to service
#76
Request for job interview self-confidence tips / What's the source of my timid act?
#77
Awkward moment at funeral stirs concern / Neighbor's death revealed my unconsciousness

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