Gabby's Tip: High school sex or exquisite intercourse?

High school sex or exquisite intercourse?

The way to tell if you have become stuck doing rudimentary high school sex* is whether or not you are withholding thoughts from your partner. Withholds serve as barriers to the experience of being, of love, and of communication (true intercourse). The vast majority of couple have become stuck doing their imitation of communication with each other.

If you are withholding thoughts from your partner you have caused (yes caused) them to withhold an equal (yes equal) number of thoughts of choice from you. There are no exceptions to this entanglement phenomenon. Your partner has no choice other than to mirror your leadership-communication skills, your integrity. Your withholds (mostly unacknowledged perpetrations) keep you both out-integrity. The way to restore your integrity, and your partner's**, is by communicating openly, honestly, and spontaneously, zero significant thoughts withheld; else you doom your partner to a life with few or no experiences of joy and drug-free ecstasy; to deceive another is abusive, to do so consciously is premeditated abuse.

The way to create an experience of genuine intercourse is through clearings. Clearings (a.k.a. be-withs) lead to conscious breathing (referred to as conspiring) together. When a couple look into each others eyes they discover that the rhythm of their synchronized breathing reveals any thoughts being withheld between them. Thoughts, when verbally communicated, are disappeared which creates space for an experience (as opposed to more-of-the-same). When the collective mind is empty (all withholds between each other verbally communicated) and, a couple are "coupled," then synchronous breathing (without any other movement) generates subtle pleasuring mind-blowing sensations resulting in an experience of love, of true intercourse, of being one with each other.

Breathing together can't be created or sustained if there are withholds in the space.

To consciously create ecstasy one must first restore and maintain his/her integrity (do The Clearing Process). Then invite your partner to do the process, after which, you both can do The Clearing Process for Couples. When couples clear each other it creates space for communication to take place, to "be-with" each other (for many it's a totally unique experience), to experience what's so, or what comes up, or, to co-create an experience such as breathing together.

You can tell if you have mastered control if you and your partner routinely surrender to each other.*** If your partner is experiencing sadness, upset, or anger then what works is for you to notice that you are holding your breath and then subtly dramatize taking a deep breath. If they are susceptible to being supported, to surrendering to your support, (not intent on blaming or making you or another wrong) he/she will automatically notice that they were holding their breath and start breathing; their breathing is an acknowledgment of your support.

* Rudimentary high school sex refers to what takes place when, as a teen, your integrity was out, when both of you had conned each other into deceiving both sets or parents so as to have sex. What you thought was love was not love because its foundation was deceit.

** If you are withholding a perpetration from your loved one then they are unconscious; they are as unconscious as you are because a conscious person can sense when the integrity is out. They too are withholding a thought from you, consequently they can't experience the incomplete between you.

*** That is to say, you must, alternately, choose to control him/her and choose to surrender to him/her (a.k.a. Power-Source Relationship Model). The analogy is liken to a co-pilot who is always ultimately in charge of the plane should the designated pilot need support. One can also control another by seldom surrendering, or by continually surrendering, however, these ways of relating generates frequent blaming breakdowns in communications.