Dear Gabby (6/9/08)

How many times have you read advice columnists such as Dear Abby or Dear Ann Landers and didn't agree with their reply?

Here's some columns just as they were printed in the newspaper. We've added Gabby's Replies. Gabby communicates from a different point of view, neither right nor wrong, merely different.

Let us know how you would reply. You may comment on Gabby's replies by clicking the "add reply" button on our Dear Gabby Forum. (free - registration required)

Note: The title after the ( / ) is Gabby's title.
For example: Gabby would have titled letter 1, "Husband mirroring wife."

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1. Estranged husband spreading lies / Husband mirroring wife

2. Concerned about husband's looks / Withholds in the way of truth

3. Mistress' death bed visit is not a good idea / Consequences of deceit

4. Wife tired of husband's sex drive / Time for next level of intercourse

5. Sidestep friend's divorce questions with humor / Humor masks anger, perpetuates blame

6. Husband - son communication problem / Lost ability to communicate with my husband

7. Fiancé broke no-smoking agreement / Can't inspire fiancé to opt for health

8. Friend blindly marrying a jerk / Invited to doomed wedding

9. Am I bound to give diamond back to ex- fiancé? / Stuck in my survival mind

10. Shun sister-in-law without upsetting family? / Pot calling kettle black

11. Father & daughter communication problem / Same barriers with husband as with father

12. Should I stay in this relationship? / Is boyfriend mirroring me?

13. Mother doesn't want gay friend at daughter's wedding / Daughter foments bigoted fight

14. How to leave impotent husband / Deceptor not safe space for truth to be told

15. Will bisexual husband go straight? / How did I cause husband to deceive me?

16. Husband won't get vasectomy / Upset with husband's plans for widowhood

17. Telephone solicitor upset about rudeness / Rude behavior begetting rude behavior

18. Grandmother concerned about donor deceit / My child mirrors my dishonesty

19. Should I confront wife's adultery partner / Co-conspirator blames wife

20. Friends won't R.S.V.P. my invitations / "Friends" are communicating something

21. Glove ended up inside man's pants / Delightful anecdote

22. How do I stop wife verbally abusing our son? / Husband needs therapy immediately

23. Mother-daughter quarrel / Daughter creates mess and blames mother

24. Spouse beating herself up over early transgression / Cheater still practicing deceit

25. Should I tell daughter who real father is? / Should I teach daughter to deceive, or what?

26. Separated lover hides relationship from his family / Should I keep rewarding his deceit?

27. Son's supermarket temper tantrum? / Son mimics how I use anger to get my way

28. What's wrong with me & my sex fantasies? / Should I continue hiding worries from my husband?

29. Advice re: boyfriend's drugs & gay phone-sex hobby / Not safe space for boyfriend to tell truth

30. Are these responses serious? / Dear Gabby reader asks question

31. What can she do about his beer drinking? / Wife's addiction feeds husband's

32. Upset about office signs at new job / Withholds destroying relationships

33. Girls team coach requests coaching / Coach unconsciously seducing young girls

34. Father getting married again creating relationship problems / Unconscious saboteur

35. Presumptuous neighbor out of line / Possible karmic ultimatum

36. Feeling badly about telling on friend / Integrity at work

37. Boyfriend's call interrupts business meeting / Controller upset with controller

38. Mom should keep quiet about sex / Mom sabotages parents of daughter's boyfriend

39. Guys won't ask me out / Positionality broadcasting warning signals

40. Dump unfaithful man / Con reveals con

41. Sever ties only with father / Abusive mother enables father's abuse

42. Don't let pre-nup wreck relationship / Next time tell the man up front

43. Mother urged to discuss issue with daughter / Get thee to a communicologist

44. Should I ask for hand in marriage? / If you have to ask now you are not ready

45. My sister won't talk with us / I drove my sister out of our life

46. Happy except for wife's sex problem / Blame wife for my intercourse skills

47. Boyfriend’s online sex search presents a dilemma / Girlfriend needs coaching

48. Concerns about my boyfriend's friends / Abuse addict blaming boyfriend

49. Boyfriend talked about another woman during sex / Spontaneity missing from communication model

50. Son wants us to shun his ex-wife / Mother taught and rewards blame and spite.

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