#18
Grandmother concerned
about donor deceit / My child mirrors my dishonesty |
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DEAR ABBY: My son (I'll call him Michael) was very ill with cancer at age 15, and as a result he became sterile from his chemotherapy treatments. Thank the good Lord he has made a complete recovery. However, when he married eight years ago, he and his wife wanted a family. My nephew Edmund (his cousin) agreed to be a sperm donor. Michael and Edmund have always been very close, more like brothers. Edmund is divorced and has two children. A year ago my daughter gave birth to a healthy baby boy. Abby, they have decided that they will never tell the child who his real father is. I'm afraid that someone else might tell him, as a few members of his family are aware of this. My husband says it's their decision and that we should stay out of it, but I'm worried about my grandchild's future, should he find out. Please give us your thoughts on this. —LOVING GRANDMOTHER IN THE U.S.A. DEAR GRANDMOTHER: I agree with you. Family secrets such as this have a way of leaking, which could cause a flood of embarrassment. Your husband makes a good point, however. Give your son and daughter-in-law some "motherly" advice, and then say no more. —ABBY
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Gabby's Response: Hi
Grandmother: I too am worried about your grandchild's future, but for other
reasons.
It appears you have forgotten that it is you who taught your son that it's
OK to deceive another if the reason is good enough. Presently he has no
choice but to mirror your integrity.
Now you profess to not want your
grandchild raised with the same ethic. Such values get communicated
psychically. Your grandchild will find himself deceiving others and have no
idea who taught him.
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