How to cause your child to do drugs


Children misbehave, do poorly in school, do drugs, and search for love (sex) when parents lapse into their imitation of communication. When real/genuine communication takes place there is an experience of mutual satisfaction and love upon completion.

Children are integrity meters. They can tell in a nano-second when their parents are not communicating openly and honestly with each other, specifically, when one is withholding a thought from the other. A thought withheld serves as a barrier to the experience of love. The concept of love is there but there is no experience of it.

When the integrity of a family is out, when one or both parents are withholding thoughts from each other, children experience confusion. Their very growth-compass starts to wander. When one parent decides to withhold a thought from his/her partner the thought floats around in the space between the parents and the child. The relationships went from being in-integrity to being out-integrity (something is missing or something has been added to the space). The love that was is no longer.

For a child life is a series of interactions, each one is experienced as a complete when everything is back to normal (hugs, kisses, and laughter). When parents argue and don’t go through to completion, the incomplete interaction serves as a barrier to the experience of integrity (of being whole and complete). There’s something different about the expressions of love thereafter.

Most often the cause of the out-integrity was an invalidating make-wrong, a condescending remark, or a non verbally delivered stink-eye.  I.e. “Where the hell were you?” “Boy that was stupid.” “I told you not to buy those . . . .” If an abuse is not acknowledged through to mutual satisfaction then the incident remains as an incomplete, most often for life.

The foremost barrier to communication mastery with ones spouse and children is arrogance; the belief that I can do it myself without communication coaching drives most children to misbehave and eventually do drugs. Children search for the high and the experience of love that once came from communications with their parents. The parents are stuck honestly believing they are in communication with each other and their child.

P.S. I know of no college/university that offers Leadership Training for its education or mental health majors.

Last edited 12/10/20
 
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