This tip is for those
looking for a full time partner, perhaps even marriage.
It's possible that if you have been dating one
person and are considering marriage then this tip is
probably too late, however, here are some considerations
for those still shopping.
If your date tries to
talk you into having sex behind the backs of your
parents then your marriage will be fraught with
deception. An honorable person will not support you in
deceiving your parents. The karma of enabling deception
is exactly what you want and expect it to be.
An
honorable date will introduce you to his/her parents.
This is important because you will be able to observe
how your date treats his/her parents.
A date who doesn't insist
that you meet his/her parents communicates volumes about
their family, specifically, that they don't supervise
them. Quite often such a date is starving for love and
will marry the first person who will have them just to
get away from their family and the
limited-prospects-of-a-future community. Often such a
date will not have applied him/herself in high school
and so they are karmically destined for a life of
mediocrity (taking their partner along with them).
Teen girls: If you've conned your date into
continually begging for sex then the relationship is
doomed. In other words, if you've been using your
leadership communication-skills to seduce a man into
begging for sex then you are not in-communication with
him. Specifically, there is fear in the relationship
(you are most likely afraid that a "no" will cause him
to stop dating you). When a person of integrity says
"no" they mean it. When a woman cons a man into
repeatedly begging for sex then he intuitively knows,
with certainty, that she doesn't mean no. It also
implies that she can probably can be conned into
forgiving the first incident of cheating. A man cannot
respect a woman he can con, a women who lies; such a
woman communicates—if you jump through enough of my
hoops I'll give you sex.
Teen boys: Conning a
girl into having sex behind the backs of her parents
reveals that your parents did not teach you respect. In
truth you cannot respect a girl whom you can con into
deceiving her parents; forever you will treat her with
condescension.
How your date treats clerks and
waiters is an excellent predictor of what's to come? You
will be able to tell instantly what you can eventually
expect. That is to say, a date might be able to act
polite and considerate for single occasion however,
his/her programmed behaviors will surface; most often
you'll notice that they are condescending, rude, or
inconsiderate.
Always ask about prior
relationships. How your date describes what "happened"
with ex-relationships will let you know if they are
addicted to blaming and badmouthing (yes, it's an
addiction as difficult to address as alcohol). If you
hear them blaming and badmouthing, if you end up not
liking their ex (never having met them) then your date
is addicted to blaming and badmouthing.
Here are four free
communication processes that can create (or restore) the
experience of integrity within a family. It's not too
late.