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- Wed Nov 24, 2004 5:49 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: My part in it
- Replies: 3
- Views: 6017
Re: My part in it
Hi SnowBlind: (such a perfect username)n n As you can see your position shuts down communication between us. There's simply no space for communication to take place. You're right, I'm wrong. The cost for being right will continue to be your aliveness (your energy and creativity), eventually your hea...
- Tue Aug 31, 2004 4:47 pm
- Forum: Message Drop
- Topic: Being Addicted to abuse?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 17188
Re: Being Addicted to abuse?
Hi Lily: Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'd add one more Lilyism to your list; don't engage in a substantive conversations with someone who is addicted to lecturing, to being right, and to arguing. As with all posts here someone will see themselves through our communications. If you wish a rep...
- Fri Aug 27, 2004 5:31 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: My part in it
- Replies: 3
- Views: 6017
Re: My part in it
Hi Snowblind.n n Close, but as far from a responsible communication as would be the sentence, he's to blame for everything. I refer to your unconscious use of the word "part." Responsibility is 100%. When you take responsibility, there's none left for him to take.n n Re: "Some say I did all I could....
- Fri Apr 16, 2004 9:57 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: Can a friend with a parollee be searched?
- Replies: 0
- Views: 5961
Can a friend with a parollee be searched?
This question was submitted anonymously on 4/17/04 via our Spouse Abuse Tutorial "Frequently Asked Questions Form." It was sent again, with an edit, so it's clear that the submitter is sincerely concerned and would like an answer.n n Question:n n 1) Does someone with a parolee have to be search if t...
- Fri Mar 26, 2004 1:24 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: how can i help a friend in an abusive realationship
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4370
Re: how can i help a friend in an abusive realationship
Hi Charity:n n The bottom-line answer to your question: “How can i help a friend in an abusive realationship?” [sic] is, you can’t, not with your present communication skills. However, that’s not a very satisfying answer. It’s not what you thought you wanted/needed to hear.n n Your friend is mirrori...
- Tue Feb 03, 2004 11:02 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: Yourname's test post
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4510
Re: Your name's test post
Hi Santafaded: Please resend your acknowledgment to my "instructions" e-mail. In my email I asked for you to reply with "Nothing in the body of the e-mail." Your reply contained two communications, a stationary icon and an advertisement. Also, please do another test post here per my instructions, "I...
- Sun Jan 25, 2004 10:17 pm
- Forum: Message Drop
- Topic: Getting to know you
- Replies: 1
- Views: 8091
Re: Getting to know you
Hi Zumra: Our policy is to not engage in conversations via email. This forum, the Message Drop, is for comments and feedback. There's something about your concern that's uncomfortable. It sounds as though you have a specific question, if so, please use the Message Board. If what you've read already ...
- Fri Jan 09, 2004 11:05 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: Errors on agreement form
- Replies: 2
- Views: 5399
Re: Errors on agreement form
Hi JustMe:n n Thank you for acknowledging receipt of my e-mail. I got that you were experiencing confusion.n n So that others can follow what you are referring to, re: "I received your e-mail." here's the e-mail.n n ===================n Hi JustMe:n n We received your "Links are working" communicatio...
- Sat Nov 08, 2003 3:37 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: Assurance
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4679
Re: Assurance
Hi Molly:n n Thanks for the assurances.n n I have e-mailed you the particulars.n n Kerryn Tutorial Coach
- Tue Oct 28, 2003 3:09 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: Bothered by my dysfunctional family
- Replies: 1
- Views: 5224
Re: Bothered by my dysfunctional family
Hi Lisa: Thank you for reaching out. You have done a commendable job of describing what bothers you. I’m not clear why you chose to post here. I say this because it does not appear that you have read any of our tutorial descriptions or our Dear Gabby letters. Would you please explain what prompted y...
- Tue Oct 21, 2003 9:16 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: web's test post
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4548
Re: web's test post
Hi Web: Thanks for your prompt response. Special thanks for your support of the integrity required to optimize the tutorial. Please feel free to continue another time. You are released from your agreement. With aloha, Kerry, Tutorial Coach PS. If you wish you may post a specific concern (question) h...
- Mon Oct 20, 2003 12:12 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
- Replies: 5
- Views: 8165
Re: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
Wendy: When someone asks you to not communicate with them (specifically the way you have been trained, using your abusive communication model) and you do, it’s tantamount to date rape. n n You communicated:n n Yah, Kerry, I know you don’t want to hear from me again but tough luck. What I have to say...
- Sun Oct 19, 2003 10:13 pm
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
- Replies: 5
- Views: 8165
Re: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
Hi Wendy:n n Your reply did not feel good. Such a communication is abusive. To ask for advice and then arrogantly announce your intention to ignore it is exactly what “mother” has been doing her entire life and will do with you. She is mirroring your own addiction to abuse (see definition of abuse )...
- Sun Oct 19, 2003 11:03 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
- Replies: 5
- Views: 8165
Re: why don't the abused leave their spouses.
Hi Wendy: The short answer, which could upset you, is, there is nothing you can do or say that will bring about a transformation. In the consulting profession it’s a given that "helping" merely postpones, in this case, the mother doing what it takes to heal herself. If you and I intervene it just ad...
- Mon Oct 06, 2003 9:52 am
- Forum: Message Board
- Topic: i want help
- Replies: 1
- Views: 4657
Re: i want help
Hi Dee:n n Here’s a copy of the e-mail you were sent after you submitted your agreement.n n Your agreement was not accepted because you did not follow the instructions. As stated below, the tutorial only works for those willing and able to follow instructions. Your post reveals that not only were yo...