A Sample Clearing:

Use the bolded questions to bring to the surface your persistent unwanted thoughts, considerations, withholds, stuffed-perpetrations, and incompletes.

To whom are you afraid to say what?

OK Kerry, you say this stuff works, well here goes. First, to heck with the speling. I'm afraid to tell my wife that I cheated on her during our engagement before we were married. I'm afraid to tell my daughter's teacher what I really think of her. I'm afraid to tell my wife's mother that I think she's too pushy. I'm afraid to tell my wife's grandmother that she stinks of urine. I'm afraid to tell my boss that I come in late a lot. I'm afraid to ask my boss for a raise. I feel badly that I'm looking for another job without telling my boss.*  I'm afraid to tell my daughter that I don't like the boy she's dating and if I had my way I wouldn't allow her to see him anymore. I'm afraid to ask her if she's had sex with him.

*Notice that you can insert any thought that comes to mind any time or place.

Note: A thought such as, "I lied to my mother about going to the library" when communicated disappears. The thought will exist as a memory but without the charge attached to the deceit. A thought communicated creates space for other incompletes to bubble to the surface. This is why it's valuable to clear frequently. The "good" stuff, the stuff your mind doesn't want to acknowledge, is buried deep under dozens of others.

What are you hiding from whom?

I'm hiding that I stole lots of comic books when I was a kid. I'm hiding that I didn't file income taxes for about five years when I first started to work. I'm hiding from my wife Joan that I think a lot about Anita in the sales department. I'm hiding from my dad that I took his car and went drinking one night when I said I was going to the library. I'm hiding from my folks that Joan and I smoked a lot of marijuana when we first got married. I'm hiding from Joan's dad that I think his jokes are stupid and that some are even too gross for my daughter to hear. I'm hiding from Joan's folks that I think they are alcoholics and that I don't like to visit them because they drink so much. I'm hiding from all religious people who use the words Christ or God in their conversation that they turn me off.

For what in your life would you like to be acknowledged?

I'd like to be acknowledged for cheating on a high school math test. I'd like to be acknowledged for lying to my dad when he asked me if I scratched the Toyota. I'd like to be acknowledged for talking a friend of mine into masturbating with me when I was ten. I'd like to be acknowledged for talking (conning) a girl into having sex when she said no. I'd like to be acknowledged for not telling my wife when I find another woman attractive. I'd like to be acknowledged for getting good grades in college, for picking up litter when no one is watching, and for being nice to old people. I'd like to be acknowledged for all the times I didn't do the chores and said I did, ditto for lying about brushing my teeth. I'd also like to be acknowledged for all the chores that I did do, some very well done others very poorly. Especially I'd like to be acknowledged for pouring the can of paint out in the back yard and then telling my mom that we ran out of paint. That's all for today.

Keep in mind that incompletes hide incompletes. That is to say, you piled feeling badly on top of your first lie, the one for which you have yet to be caught, which guaranteed another lie, and another, etc. Your integrity is such that you will lie/keep causing people to lie, deceive, and withhold from you until you clean up your firsts, and the effects of all subsequent ones. There are hundreds (actually thousands) of deceits and lies covering up the first one. Today's clearing will lift and uncover more. You may run out of things to post today, however when you come back tomorrow you'll notice you have more. Eventually your clearings will all be current, about today's perps (abuses) and withholds. If you keep sharing, even when it's very embarrassing, you will find yourself choosing to not withhold or lie.

Your aim is not to stop lying or to make a decision to not lie any more. The game is to catch (observe yourself having just lied) and to communicate it (acknowledged it verbally/in writing) to at least one other person. If you do the process regularly you will begin to have a choice about lying. Soon you will hear yourself lying and have the consciousness, the integrity (your integrity will be closer to the surface), to put in correction immediately. Eventually you'll automatically stop lying, not from trying to change yourself, or from making yourself wrong, or feeling badly about yourself, but from having a conscious choice. Instead of walking around in life with the aura of a somewhat sneaky person you will experience being in integrity, whole and complete. Eventually you will attract like-people into your life. You will no longer have any need to attract those who are out integrity so as to mirror your own out-integrity.

A person who operates from integrity, one who is complete and committed to open and honest communications, can experience another's out-integrity. It's an aura thing. As such, they choose to interact with you as little as possible because they know a closer relationship with you will generate undesirable problems, that your karma is still generating consequences from unacknowledged childhood perpetrations. Those presently around you have no idea that they have no choice but to keep their thoughts to themselves. A person is whole and complete (in integrity) creates space for open and honest communications.

Ultimate integrity is not that you don't lie, but that you can be trusted to clean up a lie. Obviously, the most value comes from delivering the withholds and cleaning up the lies and perpetrations. Once you are conscious that withholding thoughts from a loved one or family member is abuse then choosing to withhold begins to have even more undesirable consequences. It could be said that The Clearing Process creates space for you to begin with a clean slate.

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