Communication Tip:
Natural body
odors—accurate attractor and compatibility indicators.Most people bring about a dozen unique industry-added scents into the personal space of others. I.e. laundry detergents, softeners, soaps, shampoos, deodorants, toothpastes, mouthwashes, perfumes, shaving creams, after-shave lotions, hair products, and various cosmetics.
Each part of the body (hair, ears, breath, arm pits, toes, belly button, crotch and anus) emits its own unique natural odor. These odors vary for each person depending upon their attention to personal hygiene, time of the day/month, the activities, one's integrity, and most importantly, one's diet.
Given that few dating couples use the same scented products a bloodhound dog might detect upwards of 24 distinctly different odors swirling between them. Most scents dissipate or vaporize (but not completely) as the hours/day/event passes.
Most experienced lovers can recall the somewhat off-putting taste of perfume/aftershave alcohol on a partner's neck. Older women who have lost some of their sense of smell will often douse themselves with perfume such that when they are in public areas it intrusively wafts into others nostrils; they are oblivious to the fact that some people are allergic to certain scents, that, and they are unconscious about personal space.
Ones personal space for sounds and smells is 50% of the distance between you and another. To intrude into another's space without permission (or an implied agreement) is abusive.Example #1: A foul-smelling homeless person might refuse clean clothes, shelter and a shower because they are unconsciously intent on driving others away, offending anyone who comes near—such is their need to make others wrong—they are driven to live the blaming non-verbal communication, "Look what you did to me? Here, smell this."
Example #2: North Vietnamese solders said they could sometimes smell an ambush because of the noise and the smell of candy-breath and mosquito repellent (untrained soldiers conducting ambushes would noisily snack on munchies throughout the night).
Example #3: If you and your next door neighbor can sometimes hear each other then you have an implied agreement for low-volume noise.
Will the real you please emanate:
Few people are aware that the body emits natural pheromones; these DNA determined custom-made-for-you fragrances are your natural sexual attractor scents. They are aphrodisiac-like scents that your ideal partner is programmed to respond to favorably; they heighten and enhance the experience of intercourse (all verbal, non-verbal, physical, and psychic communications). Appropriately, others will find your natural scents tolerable, or even unpleasant and stay at arm's length from you, which I suspect is the way it's supposed to work; or as many couples do, simply put up with them. The surviving partner of a long happy marriage will often keep the other's clothes for a while, in part because they enjoy the stimulating smells that trigger memories and the experience of love.
If your DNA causes you to give off, and be attracted to, the scent of musk, and you have been using vanilla-scented shampoo then the absence of chemistry between you and a date could be because you used artificial lures to attract each other. Possibly you haven't been tapping into the brilliant design of your natural partner-attractor.
Advice for singles:
Start using unscented products (after 6 or more washings the odor-masking scents will disappear from your sheets, towels, and clothing). Instead of a fabric softener use Calgon (a liquid or powdered water softener) in the softener dispenser (it gets out soap that's embedded in the fibers). I also recommend using the magical "Super Shield Laundry Protector" (the same microbe barrier treatment used for certain new clothing).
Use Thai Stick (a natural crystal underarm deodorant), it retards growth of odor-causing bacteria without leaving a scent.
Wear flip-flops/sandals without socks whenever possible so as to spread and therefore aerate your toes.
Shower with unscented non-soap neutral-PH body wash.
Floss and brush your teeth (unscented tooth powder) and scrape your tongue.
Use a hand-held hair dryer (positioned in a hand towel-donut on the lid of the toilet seat) for your crotch (read hygiene tip for men).
Then, go to a party and walk around and pause for a few minutes beside each prospect (flapping your arms might help
)
and see who ends up automatically attracted to you. A few dances will
allow you both to whiff each other for possible compatibility points.
Keep in mind that you will most likely judge your own natural underarm
odor somewhat unpleasant, however, if you've washed within 12-hours then
that's the real you. Of course body scents vary depending upon whether
you eat animals.Partners who are compatible, who are both animal eaters or both vegans, who communicate openly, honestly, and spontaneously, no significant withholds (deceitful withholds create toxins, foul-smelling breath, and other health issues) will acknowledge that they are turned on by each others various natural odors.
This odor tip won't work for smokers because they are virtually suicidal, at best facilitating entropy; they have yet to commit to life and living (fully tapping into the power of each oxygen molecule). Most smokers are not in-communication with anyone. They don't have anyone that consistently inspires them; they have become stuck doing their imitation of communication. For every smoker there is an enabler (a parent, partner, or friend) whose leadership-communication skills don't inspire him/her to opt for healthy choices.
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