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Yelling?
Some consider yelling to be abusive, others don't. If for you yelling is abusive then as soon as possible, after each yell, acknowledge to your victim that you know it didn't feel good.


About the Tutorial (pg. 5 of 18)

It is abusive and unethical to use someone who is stuck in verbal or physical abuse for your own survival or personal gratification.

An abusive person is still stuck in childhood. When a child is stuck in a pattern of temper-tantrums it's the parents, the adults around him/her, training and rewarding the behavior, that keep the child stuck. If you know your partner is stuck in childhood, dramatizing anger as children do, using anger to get his/her way, to control others, and you are using him/her, for whatever reason, it is tantamount to child abuse. It's not unlike dating a child of 12.

In other words, an abusive person has no choice but to mirror the abuse, the sickness, of those around him/her. Your partner is mirroring your sickness.

"Stuck" here means; someone to whom you have not verbally communicated the following two paragraphs.

Press Continue button and read the two paragraphs. You are not yet agreeing to do the tutorial.

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"unethical"
If you've done something you didn't know was wrong or abusive you were simply ignorant. If you choose to do something you know is wrong then you are being unethical.
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