About the Tutorial

Eligibility Requirements:

Do not do the tutorial if American English is not your native tongue.

Do not do the tutorial from a television w/keyboard, or a portable media player such as an iPod/iPad, cell phone, or text messaging device. You must have a PC with a hard drive and emailing capabilities.

Do not do the tutorial from work unless you are the boss or you have the boss's permission.

Do not do the tutorial if you are in a support group or working with a counselor or therapist. Please wait a period of three months from your last appointment, session, or meeting before starting the tutorial.

Do not do the tutorial if you are an alcoholic or if you are a recovering alcoholic and attend AA meetings regularly or occasionally. Or, if another would say that you are an alcoholic in denial.

Exception: If you have been addicted to alcohol and you can now drink from choice, one or two drinks per occasion or for a birthday or holiday celebration.

Do not do the tutorial if you are living with or relating with (enabling) an alcoholic. It will not work for you.  Please do not ask why.

Do not do the tutorial if you are presently taking any mind/mood altering drug/medication. Wait three months. (sugar, nicotine, & caffeine ok)

Do not do the tutorial if you must hide from someone that you are doing the tutorial. Deceit will only create more undesirable problems for you.

Do not do the tutorial if you are an active church member or attend services regularly, or if you consider yourself to be a religious person, or, if you live with a devout religious person. To not consult with and take advantage of your pastor is to thwart him/her and your religion. Let your pastor know that your relationship with him/her (including the church and God) has not been working in terms of abuse in your relationships; in so doing your pastor will schedule appropriate counseling sessions based upon your faith's religious teachings.

Exception: Announce to your pastor that you intend to take a 1-year sabbatical from the church so as to do the tutorial.

Do not do the tutorial if you find yourself using religious terms in your daily communications with others. i.e. God Bless You, Thank God, Allah be Praised, Blessings on you, Amen, God Bless America, etc. or, if you frequently find yourself quoting religious text, or, trying to teach others your religious belief system. i.e. Trying to "save" them or doing missionary work. If there is abuse in your relationships then something about your beliefs are  producing it.

Do not do the tutorial if you think God or someone you respect might tell you to stop doing the tutorial and you would follow his/her advice.

Do not do the tutorial if you think you might let someone else read (even accidentally) the tutorial material without having registered for Part 2. Keep in mind, everyone with whom you relate has power over you (especially your parents and best friend), they are all enablers. To allow them to read the tutorial, or to discuss the tutorial content with them, will give them even more power over you.

Note #1 You will be tempted to share the content of the tutorial, using words and sentences you read, so as to teach/help another, or to appear to be intelligent, however, to do so will keep both of you stuck.

Live from the tutorial, don't quote it. Once you have completed the tutorial you may opt to become a facilitator/coach which is another curriculum. Trying to teach a parent or partner to communicate (to open up, to be more effective, less abusive, etc.) reveals you have a misunderstanding about responsibility (cause).

The tutorial will serve as a catalyst for things to work or things to not work at an accelerated pace depending upon your integrity.

Note #2 Cheating or deception with these eligibility requirements will create even more undesirable results in your life.

Eligibility Communication:

If you are eligible according to the above criteria and intend to do Part 2 — The Tutorial, press the "I am eligible" button.

If you are not eligible press the "I am not eligible" button (acknowledging the truth will be of value).

Clicking either button will simply refresh this page.

The Eligibility Communication is required for tutorial participants.

If you are not eligible come back in a few months. In the meantime use the The Clearing Process it's free and extremely valuable. A donation is a nice way to acknowledge the value and to share the experience with others.