About the Tutorial

Eligibility Requirements:

• American English must be your native tongue.

• You must have a computer with a hard drive and emailing capabilities; in other words, it won't work if you try to do it from a television w/keyboard, or a portable media player such as an iPod/iPad, cell phone, or text messaging device.

• If you are doing the tutorial from work you must be the boss or have the boss's permission. Deceits at work always have undesirable effects in ones personal relationships.

• If you are in a support-group or working with a counselor or therapist please wait a period of three months from your last appointment, session, or meeting before starting the tutorial.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you are an alcoholic or if you are a recovering alcoholic and attend AA meetings regularly or occasionally, or, if another would say that you are an alcoholic-in-denial.

  Exception: If you have been addicted to alcohol and you can now drink from choice, one or two drinks per occasion or for a birthday or holiday celebration.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you are living with or relating with (enabling) an alcoholic. This includes relating regularly or occasionally with relatives who are alcoholics.

• If you are presently taking any mind/mood altering drugs/medications please wait three months (sugar, nicotine, caffeine, and social drinking ok). About pot: If you use it daily or for intimacy please do not do the tutorial—this has to do with your willingness/ability to function in the same reality.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you must hide from someone that you are doing the tutorial. Deceit will only create more undesirable problems for you.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you are an active church member or attend services regularly, or if you consider yourself to be a religious person, or, if you live with a devout religious person. To not consult with and take advantage of your pastor is to thwart him/her and your religion. Let your pastor know that your relationship with him/her (including the church and God) has not been working in terms of abuse in your relationships; in so doing your pastor will schedule appropriate counseling sessions based upon your faith's religious teachings.

  Exception: Announce to your pastor that you intend to take a 1-year sabbatical from the church so as to do the tutorial.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you find yourself using religious terms in your daily communications with others. i.e. God Bless You, Thank God, Allah be Praised, Blessings on you, Amen, God Bless America, etc. or, if you frequently find yourself quoting religious text, or, trying to teach others your religious belief system. i.e. Trying to "save" them or doing missionary work. If there is abuse in your relationships then something about your beliefs are producing it.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you think God or someone you respect might tell you to stop doing the tutorial and you would follow his/her advice.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you think you might let someone else read (even accidentally) the tutorial material without having registered. Keep in mind, everyone with whom you relate has power over you (especially your parents and best friend), they are all enablers. To allow them to read the tutorial, or to discuss the tutorial content with them, will give them even more power over you.

• Please do not do the tutorial if you are living with or socially interacting with someone equally addicted to abuse, specifically a family member or ex. Wait until you have not interacted with an abuser (triggered their written/verbal abuse) for a period of six-months in a row; this includes not listening to their phone messages. Exceptions: child logistics.

The tutorial will serve as a catalyst for things to start working better or worse—at an accelerated pace—depending upon your integrity.

Note #1 You will be tempted to share the content of the tutorial using words and sentences you read so as to teach/help another, or to appear to be intelligent, however, to do so will keep both of you stuck.

Live from the tutorial rather than quote it. Once you have completed the tutorial you may opt to become a facilitator/coach which is another curriculum. Trying to teach a parent or partner to communicate (to open up, to be more effective, less abusive, etc.) reveals you have a misunderstanding about responsibility (cause).

Note #2 Cheating or deception with these eligibility requirements will create even more undesirable results in your life.

Eligibility Communication: (required for tutorial participants)

If you are eligible according to the above criteria and intend to do Part 2 — The Tutorial, press the "I am eligible" button and it will take you to the last page of About the Tutorial after which you may register.

If you are not eligible press the "I am not eligible" button (acknowledging the truth will be of value).

Clicking I am not eligible will simply refresh this page.

If you are not eligible come back in 3-6 months. In the meantime use The Clearing Process, it's free and extremely valuable. A donation is a nice way to acknowledge the value and to share the experience with others.