This tutorial is not therapy nor is it about getting better. It is not about changing content, the words you say, or the way you deliver them. It's about transforming your communication model.

It will not work for you to take what you read here and ask someone else, a friend or therapist, what he/she thinks about it.

Important: If you are reading this for research or curiosity, to judge, compare, evaluate, or study the subject, the educational process will not work. In other words, if you are reading this for other than its intended purpose it will not work. The mind of a person addicted to abuse, someone who has not acknowledged his/her addiction, is programmed to find fault with this material. Please ask for permission to quote/copy anything from these pages (permission with acknowledgment of its source is always given freely).

If you are reading this in hopes of being able to recommend it to someone, please stop. It will not work. A tutorial participant must have searched for and found it by themselves; it must be his/her intention to study communication. In your world, you are the source of the communication breakdown between you.

This tutorial is not for researchers, students, counselors, therapists, facilitators, reporters, or writers. You must be in an abusive relationship for the tutorial to communicate to you.

Press Continue to read about "telling vs. communicating." You are not yet agreeing to do the tutorial.